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What is something other people seem to grasp easily that eludes you? (lemmy.world)
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For me it's time signatures in music. I grew up playing instruments, played in several orchestras, etc. But no matter how many times someone tries to explain time signatures to me, it makes no sense. I don't understand why people place such importance on it. To me, notes have a pitch and a duration, maybe some dynamics. That's it. I don't understand why people try to needlessly complicate it. It doesn't give you anything.

My wife will hear a song and go "Oh neat, it's in 5/8." And I'm like "How tf do you know that, and why does it matter?"

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[–] 18 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Take it as a call to develop deep, authentic relationships with those people who are willing to let their guard down with you.

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  • [–] 2 points 5 hours ago* (1 child)

    those people don't exist in many people's lives.

    and even if they do, it's typically only temporary. people who get these lifelong deep authentic friendships... are pretty rare and lucky to have the circumstances in life that allowed for that.

    like, a lot of people don't have those kinds of relationships and never seek them either, the concept just doesn't exist for them and they live their entire lives on a very surface level understanding of the world.

    I don't know about you, but I don't understand how I can develop a deep authentic relationship with people who obsessed with shallow things like their social status and how expensive their car is compared to other people's cars... and that's what dominates the culture in my city. Or who fly into a long winded speech about their anxiety and despair over the fact they only make 350K last year or their stock portfolio only returned 5.5% instead of the 7% their account manager promised them...

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  • [–] 1 point 2 hours ago

    I feel you. I've made friends with a couple people like that over the last decade and I consider myself lucky. If I had a formula for making it happen, I'd have a lot more.

    For me, that kind of connection is most likely to happen with highly sensitive introverts. That type of personality has an advantage in developing deep relationships. Rare, but not impossible to find while out and about. If all you meet is a single type of personality, I'd take it as a sign to look outside your current social circles.

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