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What is something other people seem to grasp easily that eludes you? (lemmy.world)
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For me it's time signatures in music. I grew up playing instruments, played in several orchestras, etc. But no matter how many times someone tries to explain time signatures to me, it makes no sense. I don't understand why people place such importance on it. To me, notes have a pitch and a duration, maybe some dynamics. That's it. I don't understand why people try to needlessly complicate it. It doesn't give you anything.

My wife will hear a song and go "Oh neat, it's in 5/8." And I'm like "How tf do you know that, and why does it matter?"

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[–] 7 points 3 days ago (3 children)

and you can watch in real time as their world view starts wobbling and they start making up rationalizations and excuses for behaviour that is utterly narcissistic.

I encounter this when chatting with a family member and she mentions that she "loves animals" and who "couldn't hurt a fly" while also being an omnivore. She feels sorry for the animals when she thinks of industrial farming, but does her best to never think about it. When this topic comes up, I don't say anything (we've been through the topic in the past), but she sees the impatience with her bullshit on my face, and gets flustered by the fact that someone doesn't consider this cognitive dissonance normal.

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  • [–] 5 points 3 days ago

    I can somewhat relate with that. Eating meat is one of the few behaviours that I still do despite being unable to morally defend it. It's not even that I'm trying not to think about it or have to somehow deceive myself believing that it's good. I know exactly what I'm doing. The convenience of it simply outweighs the moral guilt.

    What I think would possibly make me feel different about it is someone handing me a gun and telling me to shoot a cow. If it turns out that I can't do it, then that really puts into question the outsourcing of the messy part of it in the first place.

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  • [–] -1 points 3 days ago* (1 child)

    Cool. I love animals and I eat meat and I love it.

    I see nothing wrong with it. Death is part of life.

    Do you ever ask yourself why it is that you need other people to believe and practice what you believe? And do you find when other peole impose their beliefs on you find it offputting and upsetting?

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  • [–] 1 point 2 days ago

    One can be perfectly happy with the concept of beings dying and being eaten, and still feel nothing but disgust about the meat industry.

    I tend to eat meat semi-regularly out of convenice and social norms, but I am fully aware of my hypocrisy. Same way as I am typing this on a device that probably contains parts made with essentially slave labour. Doesn't make it better. But at least I can avoid the treadmill of having to have the newest iPhone, or eating as much supermarket steak as possible.

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