I felt the same way at first. Turns out that i was so disconnected from my appearance and numb to that fact that I interpreted my indifference as being okay with it. I didnt understand that what I was feeling was dysphoria until after I accepted that I was trans.

If you think youre "okay" with being a guy, ask yourself a few questions:

  1. Is it a "positive" okay, meaning you actively like being a guy? Or is it "neutral" or "negative" okay, meaning you just dont actively hate it and are being carried forward by inertia?
  2. If you could press a button and instantly beca woman in all aspects with the caveat that you cant go back, would you press it?
I felt the same way at first. Turns out that i was so disconnected from my appearance and numb to that fact that I interpreted my indifference as being okay with it. I didnt understand that what I was feeling was dysphoria until after I accepted that I was trans. If you think youre “okay” with being a guy, ask yourself a few questions: 1. Is it a “positive” okay, meaning you actively like being a guy? Or is it “neutral” or “negative” okay, meaning you just dont actively hate it and are being carried forward by inertia? 2. If you could press a button and instantly beca woman in all aspects with the caveat that you cant go back, would you press it?
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We typically think of gender as an internal sense of identity and not as adhering to some stereotype. Generally speaking if you identify with the gender you were assigned at birth then you are cis.

Often the way trans people realize they are trans is by realizing something is wrong or that something else brings greater joy, that is to say via dysphoria or euphoria, not just via directly feeling gender. I think for a lot of cis people and eggs it's difficult to feel a sense of gender because they're so used to how things are the way a fish won't feel wet if it has lived its entire life in the ocean.

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