My last relationship like 2 and a half years ago was with a pansexual demi-girl who supported me transitioning but would like complement how it was hot that my hands were bigger than hers, and other stuff I won't mention. She gave me insecurities that I still think about, like the hands, and wince whenever I remember the sex.

For a few reasons I have like the opposite and experience like actual fear whenever I imagine what sex would be like with a pre-op trans woman. I know people talk about how awesome T4T is, but it fills me with dread. Like you're not even safe with other trans people, they still fetishize you.