Appreciate having coworkers who stand up for you, it's a world of difference.

What the absolute fuck?!

I came into the comments kinda wondering if the meme was all joke or not, but damn!

Why the fuck would anyone think that's even okay, much less think it's going to work as a pickup line?

I am so fucking sorry you had to deal with that. That anyone would, obviously, but that's just so many layers of fucked up! Just glad your supervisor handled shit.

so are you gonna get it cut off? I don’t think you should, you probably look better with it”

what kind of statement is that?? they don't even see these parts anyway. what's going on in their mind?

OMG people talk that way to others in public!? I would not survive a customer facing job. Jesus fucking Christ, raised in a barn.

Don't give me political power, because I would use it to terrorize and commit a mass murder of those types of cis men.

Yes they do. And regrow every year. You can get rid of the pedicles to stop them from regrowing though.

AFAIK different chasers look for different types, not necessarily all for same thing. The problem with chasers is that the type they chase is a fetish object. They don't look for a person to make connection, they want an object with precise physical qualities they are looking for.

The problem with chasers is that they are not seeing trans women as women / trans men as men / etc. They are seeing them as a separate, fetish-fulfilling, object of desire. It is dehumanising and invalidating of their gender

Bearing in mind as well that many trans people have absolutely no intention of getting any surgery and are perfectly happy with their existing genitalia, so, many trans folk are not "pre-op" - they cannot be "pre" something they never plan to do

As far as your second question, nonbinary folks might not be feminine enough / masculine enough to fit the chaser's model of attraction, but dont you worry, plenty of chasers do fetishise and invalidate the genders of nonbinary folks! They'll subconsciously reduce them to being their AGAB or the opposite gender, and once again make them an object of fetish rather than a person.

Problem is uninvited fetishization there is also lotsa trans people who like the respectful ones fyi

The problem is not a specific set of traits they are looking for, but a fetishization of trans people. As per the analogy in the comic, they care more about a physical presentation or a sexualized concept than their actual desires. Objectification can be desired, but it shouldn't be the starting point or the default. For example, my girlfriend treats me like a sex object, but it's only after we've communicated our boundaries and desires. At any point, I can use a safe word and call an end to that. Chasers aren't interested in a mutual and respectful relationship, they see their porn fantasies embodied in a person.

It's not even about specifically wanting bottom surgery. It's more fundamental than that. You want a partner that will love you independent of your trans status. (I want to say, "in spite of your trans status" here, but that feels too negative a connotation.) But a chaser is interested in you BECAUSE you are trans. That could be a sexual fetish, or it could be someone that's maybe looking to live vicariously through you (a lot of chasers are reppers.) But the term "chaser" is literally that - a type of person that chases after trans people specifically.

I don't know enough about the topic, so this comment will be a blind leading blind. Please don't hesitate to correct me.

My understanding is that chasers would likely not be okay with bottom surgery and they would be acting more as if that person was their assigned at birth gender, but it's also not the point. The point is that they are fetishizing trans people. It is understandable that some people have a preference, however in the case of chasers it is a division between cis and trans. In other words, they don't see trans people as just people, but rather as trans in the sense that it is something separate from normalcy. Or more simply: they see trans men and women as separate from men and women.

Why don't they look for non-binary people? Some probably do, and I wouldn't hesitate to also call these kinds of people chasers. In my mind that is still fetishizing a specific group of people, though the reasoning is probably different.

doesn't have antlers

runs off laughing

I thought it was depending on the species. Like iirc Santa's reindeer are all female as the males shed their antlers in the winter, and the females keep theirs.

But I think you're right for regular deer indeed, antlers are male only.

People are allowed to have preferences. It's probably fine to state such a preference as long as it's followed by "but it's your body and you gotta do what's best for you". If that's a dealbreaker, you can let that be known in a polite way imo. But it shouldn't be used as a threat to try to push someone not to do it.

That said, my limited experience with a chaser was one showing up at my work when I was alone (and making a weird point about it ), used their job position and my job position to get me to give them my number, proceeded to complain about trans people caring about pronouns while calling us beautiful, brought up sexual harassment he has experienced on-the-job by someone who is trans, used my number to try to invite himself to visit again, and then showed up again next time I was alone at work and forgot to lock the door and leave the lights off months later to try to "flirt" with me again and mentioned I haven't been around in months (at least this time he seemed less creepy by asking if I was into guys and seemed to drop it when I said no). But from what I've heard from others, this seems pretty normal from chaser.

My last relationship like 2 and a half years ago was with a pansexual demi-girl who supported me transitioning but would like complement how it was hot that my hands were bigger than hers, and other stuff I won't mention. She gave me insecurities that I still think about, like the hands, and wince whenever I remember the sex.

For a few reasons I have like the opposite and experience like actual fear whenever I imagine what sex would be like with a pre-op trans woman. I know people talk about how awesome T4T is, but it fills me with dread. Like you're not even safe with other trans people, they still fetishize you.