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Why is being a nice and good person less rewarding? (lemmy.zip)
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  • tried to stay positive, then misfortune strikes
  • tried making friends, ended up ghosted
  • tried looking for better job, then scammed
  • tried save money, inflation happens
  • tried sell product online, fees and tax cut, also less buyers.
  • tried theraphy, the solution only dont think about it, its okay (if only it was that easy)
  • tried being nice, taken advantage of
  • tried being honest, get hatred
  • tried religion, yet god let million of nice person suffers
  • tried sleep, need regular medication
  • tried work hard, ended up surgery and years of rehabilitation

at this point, i am so tired with whatever i do, it always doesnt work.

right now i can relate why some people choose to become evil person, because being good and nice person in this world is just not as rewarding as bad people does. even those people who ghosted and bullied me ended up becoming rich and succesful, and here i am struggle everyday. life is really unfair world.

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[–] 80 points 4 days ago (5 children)

Most of these posts assume that the goal for being nice and good is FOR the rewards. Like, "I donate to my homeless shelter all the time, and do I get any thanks? The HELL with them!" That is where it usually fails. The real trick is being strong enough to stay nice DESPITE the lack or rewards, or even inconvenience. You are nice and good because it's a core of who you are, not just for flattery and incentives.

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  • [–] 24 points 4 days ago (1 child)

    I'm nice because it makes me feel good. That's the only reward I need.

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  • [–] 6 points 4 days ago

    Same. But another thing I add when I don't feel like being nice is "be nice out of spite." Spite is against a universe trying to make me mean and bitter. "Oh the Universe is cold and uncaring," yeah well, fuck the universe, then. I'm not doing for the universe, I am doing it for me.

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  • [–] 10 points 4 days ago

    Right, you shouldn't expect to be rewarded for it.
    I expected also more negative things or at least people taking it for granted but to my surprise I got very positive reactions from a few basic kind acts.
    When I hear people told my GF I'm always there for them and one of the few people they can count on that means a lot.

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  • [–] 2 points 3 days ago*

    Yeah, getting to be nice and spreading smiles and just happiness around is all anyone can hope for.

    You win some and lose some. Careerwise or monetarily it’s tougher but not inherently. Just capitalism. And I’d rather lose there and win in warmness and having nice and amazing people around

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