Oh my fucking god, this might be the most badass comeback to those shitty "it's gay" arguments I've heard in a long time 😂

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[–] 5 points 3 days ago (2 children)

My mom had a hard time with this until I asked her if it hurt more to fuck me over or rewrite the name I went by as a child. It clicked and now she has no issues just replacing my identity completely when talking about my past.

When everyone knows you by who you are now, revise history. Doing anything less will only confuse everyone and humiliate you for no reason.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 days ago (1 child)

    Doing anything less will only confuse everyone and humiliate you for no reason.

    That's the part I disagree with - I think revising history can itself be confusing. It's a price I'm willing to pay, I just wish there was a better way.

    I'll also mention I come from a country with a strongly gendered language, where verbs in the past tense and adjectives are gendered. That sometimes makes it difficult to talk about such things, and might be making me worry about this more.

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  • I promise you, relinquishing the worry and just using the current identity to refer to past events will be less confusing in practice 100% of the time. If you have a trans friend introducing them to new people, bringing up the past and needing to clarify that your friend is trans and proceed to misgender them the entire time while talking about it will be extremely humiliating for your friend and awkward for the people you're supposedly trying to help by making this pointleasly cruel distinction just for some misguided idea of consistency.

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