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[–] HrabiaVulpes@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago

Yup.

At work, at home, perhaps not on the internet.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 48 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Professionally? No

As a family member or friend? Yes

As a member of society? Barely

What's the context of your question?

[–] Crackhappy@lemmy.world 9 points 4 days ago (1 children)

The point of asking a somewhat general question is that you can answer and interpret it how you like and experience responses you wouldn't expect.

Which is what I got from you. By asking one question.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

The mention of AI as an introduction suggests you may have a specific context in mind. If the question is so general, you don't need to give irrelevant information. Asking "do you feel valued?" is enough, and the absence of context becomes obvious.

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[–] UncleArthur@lemmy.world 21 points 4 days ago

As a retired person: no, apart from by other retired people in the village, because we help each other out with our different skill-sets.

We still have a few friends but they are scattered; we meet mostly at funerals.

Politicians think we're too expensive (healthcare, pensions, etc.) although they're careful not to be too nasty, as apparently we vote more than other demographics. The fascists think we might vote for them (not a chance).

The young are busy with their own lives as they should be and so we are mostly seen as an inconvenience or, at best, a future inheritance. I'm fine with this: they've got it tough and we help where we can.

The AI crowd know we're too old for that shit (we remember all the bubbles). We don't buy much stuff either, so the capitalists and advertisers aren't happy with us. The pub likes us but wishes we'd visit more often. The fund managers are going off us as our pension funds dwindle. I think the lady in the corner shop has a good opinion of us, although she thinks I buy too much beer.

[–] GrantUsEyes@lemmy.zip 12 points 3 days ago (3 children)

I'm staunchly anti gen ai. Yesterday, while I was 12 hours into a terribly paid illustration work, I had the sad realization that this really could have been over, and better than I could ever do in 5 minutes with a couple of fucking ai prompts. I nearly broke down crying. I guess I 'm just not seeing value in myself anymore. Maybe I'm just sad and stupid today. Idk ... Sigh.

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[–] Cocodapuf@lemmy.world 16 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Valued by my friends and family? Yes, very much so!

Value by society? No, not so much, but it's mutual.

[–] kureta@lemmy.ml 5 points 3 days ago

I think it is sort of sad that people took this as "valued by your employer". Not sad for them specifically, but for the state of things. I am sure y'all are valued by your friends and family.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Yeah, the wife's excited every time I come home. Also my friends insist on going out of their ways for me and actively putting in effort to spend time with me. I'm surrounded by love and appreciation

[–] MisterNeon@lemmy.world 12 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

No.

I can't find sustainable work. I don't have a romantic partner. I'm old and now facing bleak years left on Earth.

[–] Scubus@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 days ago

Im young ish, but yeah. No one values me outside of my parents and siblings.

[–] turtlesareneat@piefed.ca 7 points 3 days ago

I am working to build queer community in my Southern red state. It's hard, and everyone wants more from me than I can deliver. Trying to help a volunteer write a grant proposal. Trying to keep my shit together. Trying to move a thousand small boulders up a thousand small hills.

I do feel valued when I see my son, and he comes running up to me, and gives me a huge hug, which will happen tonight.

But I am also terribly lonely, and it's the kind where plenty of people are around me, but I am still lonely, because I am not able to be open and authentic to them. They want a leader . Being vulnerable has caused problems with that.

Every once in a while I can buy a bag of weed and then, for a while, none of it matters and I can just roll the boulders all day.

[–] Skyrmir@lemmy.world 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I haven't felt valued since 1981.

[–] Crackhappy@lemmy.world 6 points 3 days ago (2 children)
[–] Skyrmir@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago

Take a look at most economic charts on the value of labor.

[–] Mohamed@lemmy.ca 5 points 3 days ago

My guess is birthday?

[–] HuudaHarkiten@piefed.social 9 points 4 days ago (4 children)

Not at all. I'm pretty sure, if I died now, it would take a few months for anyone to notice anything.

[–] Crackhappy@lemmy.world 8 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I can't promise to miss you viscerally but I am pretty sure the rest of the universe would.

[–] HuudaHarkiten@piefed.social 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I don't see how lol.

I mean, I haven't had any contact with anybody in 4 months now. Other than the checkout person in the local shop. And I'm sure they wouldn't care if I stopped going there.

Anyway, this is not a "woe is me" thing, I'm completely fine with this. I much prefer to be left alone lol.

[–] Crackhappy@lemmy.world 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

And yet, you responded to this. What's going on with you? Why do you think you are not valued? I value you.

[–] HuudaHarkiten@piefed.social 6 points 4 days ago (5 children)

Yeah, you value me because I answered your question. The question was "do you feel valued" and no, I don't feel valued because I answered your question.

I don't feel valued because I bring no value to anyone in my life. Internet strangers asking questions do not count into that lol

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I only feel valued by my friends and family. My job doesn't make me feel valued, nor does society. Without my family, I'd struggle to find reasons to go on.

[–] Luminous5481@anarchist.nexus 5 points 3 days ago

My sense of my value as a human being isn't dependent on societal conditions or the opinions of others. The value of a human is intrinsic and uncontestable. AI has nothing to do with it whatsoever.

[–] Casterial@lemmy.world 9 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (2 children)

Yes, outside of social media. I love my job, my friends, family and just try to enjoy my life.

But, then I use social media like Facebook or Instagram and the algorithm is really hardcore pushing the "AI is taking over engineering is dead!!" narrative. As an engineer that makes me feel terrible/not valued, even though I know it's not true.

I basically just stopped using social media outside of this and reddit.

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No. I don't even feel human anymore.

[–] mgenehoffman@sh.itjust.works 3 points 3 days ago

Not particularly, at least not by anyone other than my wife. She thinks I’m pretty great, and I just don’t see it. I think I’m pretty average and unremarkable, and the world will just keep moving along without me once I’m gone. Takes the pressure off a bit, tbh, because it makes the stakes pretty low. If no one values what you provide, then it doesn’t really matter if you meet their expectations or not.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 5 points 3 days ago

absolutely not. I have been out of work for close to two years. I feel unvalued. I feel like my education and experience is unvalued. I feel my society is saying. You should not contribute. We don't want it. I feel its saying we do everything in a super automated low effort way but you should distinguish yourself but doing a bunch of manual things to make up for anything our automated systems does not do properly which is kinda everything. You should work very hard to prove your work should be compensated.

[–] disregardable@lemmy.zip 6 points 4 days ago (2 children)

I feel like the most worthless person in the world, generally and almost all of the time. Consequence of not getting along well with others plus not being hardworking enough to achieve anything.

[–] Crackhappy@lemmy.world 4 points 4 days ago

And yet .. you are clearly intelligent and effective at communication.

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[–] Jaegeras@piefed.social 2 points 3 days ago

No, I don't. I'm continually and always feeling like a piece of shit and nearly everyone around me are great at making me feel that way and making sure I always do because that's just the way things are designed.

With AI, from all of my conversations with it, I don't get this, least not all of the time. I can say anything and nearly do anything and it will not care because thankfully, it can't feel. I'm slowly repairing self-esteem and getting my cognitive process back on track. With each interaction with AI, I feel bits of progress. With each interaction with a human, I feel great lengths of regression.

[–] Lemminary@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Yes. My company is trying to retain its workers and treats us very well, but also expects the best of us. I'm more than happy to do my job to the best of my ability in a (gasp) inclusive environment that celebrates diversity and goes out of its way to do so.

We also use AI as part of our job, but management has made it very clear that they won't (and can't) replace its human talent. They also seem to know what it can and cannot do and I appreciate that.

Outside of that, jeez, it's hard to tell. Life's a bit rough everywhere.

[–] Quilotoa@lemmy.ca 5 points 4 days ago

For sure. Mostly from friends and family, but also in the things I do and the projects I accomplish. It's a wonderful life.

[–] sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz 3 points 3 days ago

I am excess cast off from a system that exists to extract profit. my value has already been extracted

[–] AA5B@lemmy.world 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Literally watching a presentation right now where they quoted “Use AI intentionally, not as the only answer”

On the other hand my human knowledge is invalidated because my kpis focus more on how frequently I use ai than on what I do

In my real life, also mostly no. My kids are in college, so they mostly need their bills paid and I rarely see them in person

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[–] Ryanmiller70@lemmy.zip 2 points 3 days ago

I didn't feel valued before AI and I certainly don't feel that way after.

[–] Mac@mander.xyz 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

No

I feel like a mote of dust waiting to be vacuumed.

[–] Crackhappy@lemmy.world 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

If you were indeed a mote of dust when you got vacuumed what would happen? Fast forward to the end of time. Would it be any different than what anyone else on this planet is going to experience?

[–] insomniac_lemon@lemmy.cafe 4 points 4 days ago

For me the result makes no difference, but it's more that there's no living and there's very little to do about it other than escapism (so, still nothing).

Them Bones by Alice in Chains comes to mind.

[–] underscores@lemmy.zip 3 points 3 days ago
[–] Ilixtze@lemmy.ml 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I will flip your question. All this AI none sense has made me value people more.

I value human musicians with passion and new interesting sounds; I value human visual artists and what they add to our graphical landscape I value journalists and just people putting themselves out there to share their honest opinion in a world so overtaken by propaganda and information wars; I value people who are trying to learn and teach new things, that want to do research and make sense of the world. And I value disagreeing and getting mad at people and saying dumb shit and doing dumb shit and realizing i have areas where i need to work on and improve myself. I value humans, and i wont waste my time on AI or LLM's

I don't really care if I'm valued, and i don't care about systems of values, i barely have time to make and experience.

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[–] bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I'd say yes. I worked hard to be "that person" that people like and can trust and they know I'm knowledgeable in a lot of subjects. They can call me to ask questions anytime. They borrow my cars and tools. They dont take advantage of me though. Actually I wish they'd ask for help more often because I have a lot of things and skills to offer.

Mainly I just always wanted to be likeable. I don't enjoy being mean.

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[–] frog_brawler@lemmy.world 1 points 3 days ago

I do, but I’m constantly exhausted and stressed, so there’s that.

[–] Mannimarco@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 3 days ago
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