Therapist: Hi! How are you?
You: I'm doing well :)
Therapist: What brings you in today?
You: I'm not doing well :(
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I opened many a session with: If I was doing well, I wouldn't be here.
"I'm good" is just the automatic response to being asked how you are. Though I very often struggle with wanting to be honest.
"How are you, Kolanaki?"
"I'm a fucking loser without friends, dreams or aspirations and want to die; how 'bout you?"
I happen to know my therapist's father a little, and I would see pictures of her baby on his Instagram when he was born. I decided to be forthright about this with her from the getgo, that her dad didn't really know anything personal about me or that I see her but he does post pictures of her baby. And it was fine, I get to tell her he's super cute and growing up to be very sweet, and then we talk about me.
This is super wholesome. I live in a not huge city and always worry I'll run into my therapist in a social setting since we are close in age and run in similar groups. I don't want to have to find a new therapist :(
Actually funnily enough I ran into my psychiatrist a few weeks ago at the farmer's market. He just gave me a hug and talked for a minute. I have seen him for many years, and since I work in health care as well I helped him by getting another patient of his an appointment when he asked me if I could help them, and absolutely I did, so he is super grateful to me and a really good guy.
Therapist: How are you?
Patient: Let's find out.
Better than me, hiding things because im scared to say them out loud even though I know my therapist has probly hear worse and won't judge. But I still wont talk about them so I just talk about politics, for some fucking reason idk
If you are afraid to say it, try writing it down abs sending it as an email. Even if you write you don't want to talk about it yet, it will help.
Also, your therapist WANTS you to say the hard stuff, but they can't ask you for it directly, so it has to come from you.
one can be good and unwell at the same time, though.
I'm not sick, but I'm not well.
🎵 And I'm so hot~ 🎵
🎵 Cause I'm in hell~ 🎵