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Maybe it's worth looking on reddit? But to be honest, I'm not particularly fond of reddit, I don't think it will be suitable for my task, but maybe I should give it a chance?

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[–] Libb@piefed.social 46 points 3 weeks ago

you do not find people for long-term friendship. You meet people and sometimes it turns into friendship. Looking after t is like looking to only buy a winning lottery ticket: doesn't work like that ;)

So, you need to have some common interest to share with other people and spend time doing just that... expecting nothing, but the joy of sharing some common interest.

[–] it_depends_man@lemmy.world 17 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Contrary to the memes and the "elite pvp" reputation of eve online, the people in the communities are very welcoming and you can make some long term friends there.

You still need to sort of enjoy the game itself I suppose. That is relatively easy with friends though.

[–] agentTeiko@piefed.social 6 points 3 weeks ago

I second this I don't play much anymore. But Eve University was an awesome place to start great people.

[–] felixwhynot@lemmy.world 14 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

What type of community or fandom are you looking for?

[–] AmidFuror@fedia.io 12 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Mommy-infant nursing fetish role-play.

[–] DokPsy@lemmy.world 4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Is FetLife still a thing? Cause there.

[–] felixwhynot@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Yeah, FetLife. Also OP’s local BDSM/kink clubs.

[–] DokPsy@lemmy.world 5 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I feel like FetLife might be the way to find said clubs cause normally, they don't advertise like the local mattress stores

[–] aeronmelon@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

A BSDM club with a daytime television mattress warehouse-style commercial? Someone please make this.

(The owner of the club, in full fetish gear, doing stupid stunts in the parking lot in broad daylight with the rest of the staff, also in full fetish gear.)

[–] DokPsy@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago

I will also accept: informercial in either commercial or feature time slots

[–] felixwhynot@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

Good point!

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago

And in general just use fet as kinky Facebook. It's there to maintain connections and show events. Unfortunately many events are only posted on Facebook

[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 4 points 3 weeks ago

Ironically, you'd find a lot of people like that

[–] daggermoon@piefed.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

I like mdlb.

[–] schwim@piefed.zip 9 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm not an authority on the matter as I have no friends but have you considered one of the many penpal sites? It seems perfectly suited for the type of relationship you're looking for.

No affiliation but I've ended up on this front page more than once: https://www.penpalworld.com/

[–] dark@thelemmy.club -1 points 3 weeks ago

Battten down the hatches! Downvotes incoming!

[–] ToiletFlushShowerScream@piefed.world 8 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Hobbyist forums are still tried and true, especially niche hobbies. I suppose you need a niche hobby first though?

[–] DokPsy@lemmy.world 9 points 3 weeks ago

If someone needs niche hobbies, I've got a few extra laying around

[–] BurgerBaron@quokk.au 8 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Do you actually want to? My ability to maintain online friends or even a desire to bother faded with age.

I hate to say Discord but...Discord. If I wanted to make online friends I'd jump in a local over 30's channel in my own city, or a wider net via a co-op game group seeking channel. Emulation communities were my past haunts. Use your imagination from there I'm sure there's someone catering to your specific online hobbies out there.

I still occasionally talk to the small community chat members on https://goontu.be/ which is run by some SomethingAwful forum members. People submit videos and it's a watch party. It could turn into something more, I see the opportunities, I just don't want to anymore but my point is you could.

Tldr: seek out small tribes. Too much noise on corpa social media. Too big.

[–] FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago

still occasionally talk to the small community chat members on https://goontu.be/ which is run by some SomethingAwful forum members. People submit videos and it’s a watch party. It could turn into something more, I see the opportunities, I just don’t want to anymore but my point is you could.

Very intriguing! I'll need to check this out in more depth

[–] scytale@piefed.zip 6 points 3 weeks ago

I think reddit is too big to be able to foster long term connections with other people, unless the communities you are in a small/niche enough. It might actually be easier here on lemmy/piefed/mbin because of the smaller population. I can identify users by their usernames in some of the communities I’m active in and interactions aren’t a one time thing.

Hate to say it, but Discord is pretty effective at being able to make long term connections, depending on the group of course.

Same as in-person relationships, I think the best way is to find online communities about your hobbies and interests, and look for smaller spaces, whether it be a group chat, a forum community, or even a microblogging platform.

[–] GrantUsEyes@lemmy.zip 4 points 3 weeks ago

participate regularly in a community around a topic you care about. You'll start recognizing the people there, and you'll aready have common ground. Just talk to folks.

[–] zikzak025@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

No-life an MMO, join a big guild, get to talking more with folks who have similar interests as you.

[–] LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works 3 points 3 weeks ago

Actually, this. Got hooked on a bad, dying MMO, joined a guild, founder turned out to be a narcicist asshole, left with some people I barely knew. We ended up still hanging out now and then years later, despite none of us playing any more.

[–] starlinguk@lemmy.world 3 points 3 weeks ago

Join a club. An offline one.

[–] bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works 3 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Idk what do you do for fun and are you interesting to be around ? I enjoy chatting with ransoms !

[–] LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I enjoy chatting with ransoms !

$1M and no hostages will be harmed!

[–] bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 weeks ago

Haha didnt even notice this. Yes, ransoms

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago

D&d groups worked for me. But yeah also offline clubs.

In general you tend to make real friends doing something other than just trying to make friends

[–] jet@hackertalks.com 1 points 3 weeks ago

Do a activity with others, like a game with voice chat. Meet people!

[–] FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I was interested in the discord for lemmy for this purpose (as mentioned in the sidebar) but the link doesn't really work right now.

If it's for meeting real life people, volunteer at some organisation or take part in a tighter-knit gym which does group workouts - one near me does outdoor bootcamps at the basketball court of our local park and does a pilates, yoga and "boxercise" club.

For volunteering, there's lots of interesting organisations you probably wouldn't know you can volunteer at; museums, art galleries, hospitals. Social Clubs, Libraries, community farms.