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It's not even funny anymore. I wish I was joking, but it happened again! I forget that it gets cold outside at night and that my body just isn't as cold-resistant anymore and I still try to go outside 😭

Anyway, I have this outfit. I swear to god, my jorts shrank and now they're super tight and it's kinda uncomfortable. Also the top is a bit small, also tight and not very comfortable either...I just think this isn't a good match. It's tight and tight, which goes against the tight and loose rule.

My main problem with this outfit is that the jorts sit directly on my waist (I can't get them any lower, they're just too tight 😭) and they cover it. (In my mind) my waist is like the main thing about my figure, so without it, I just look...fat? Masculine? In my eyes at least. If that makes sense...

I do like the off-shoulder top tho. It hides the broadness surprisingly well...it's just not very comfortable. And also, I just have to keep readjusting it, which isn't very practical.

I just don't think I did very well with this outfit...
What I think would improve this look could be a pair of low-waist jorts. These could probably expose more of my waist and make my figure more feminine? Does that makes sense?

I'm probably talking crazy. I still have so much to learn. I'd appreciate any feedback. Thank you very much 💜

Now if you'll excuse me, I need to tend to my bf, as always 😆. I'll definitely remember to write a spoilered comment with that later. Yep. Definitely. My memory is good, right?

I love you, kind and pretty people in my phone. Thanks for always being here for me ♥️

Edit:

NSFWMy bf was brushing his teeth in the bathroom. I took a quick sip of water to lubricate my mouth... 😆
When he came back, I gave him just the lewdest look. Then I went down on him.

At first, just gently sucking and swirling my tongue around his head...and then I really went for it 😂
I believe that enthusiasm is what makes a blowjob amazing. And I sure was enthusiastic.
I actually really like sucking cock. Not only does my bf praise me for giving him the best oral sex of all his girlfriends (he's been with 3 cis women before me), but it feels really good for me too.

And he was sure to return the favor...
He slid the chair I was sitting on up against the wall. Then he made me turn around on it and get on my knees...
And then he quite literally fucked me senseless 🤭
He was super rough in the best way imaginable. I couldn't move, I was on my knees, being pushed against a chair which was being pushed against the wall. All I could do was take it and lewdly moan. And moan lewdly I did...
It was heaven. My mind went blank from the pleasure, trying and failing to keep up with the brutal pounding. They weren't really moans anymore, just sounds I made and his sweet, dirty whispers in my ear. He knows how to treat me well 🥰

Then he stopped thrusting and simply stepped forward, pushing me against the chair even more, completely buried inside of me. God I almost fainted...
And then he pulled out. I wanted to protest, to beg for more, but my brain was completely fried lol. He got on the bed, laying on his back. It took me a second to be able to form thoughts again, but I soon got the message.

I slowly climbed on top of him, straddling him. Gently leading his tip to where it belongs...
And let my weight sink his dick completely inside of me 🤭
I find cowgirl very intimate. We can look at each other, he can see my boobs bouncing and we can hold hands while I shake and gyrate my hips on top of him.

I love it and he enjoys it a lot. He always calls me "his queen on her throne" which always makes me feel hot all over. He loves it when I ride him. I love it too, when he looks me in the eyes and massages my breasts...it's so unbelievably HOT ❤️.

I actually surprised myself today. It's injection day, so I didn't think I'd perform very well due to my sore thigh...I couldn't have been more wrong 😆
I lovingly rode him, then leaned down to kiss him and also gave him a hickey on his neck 😆. Then he exploded, while still inside me of course. I wouldn't have it any other way. I'll never stop trying to have his kids...

I didn't get off right away. I enjoy straddling him, just sitting with him inside of me. I love it, actually.
So, still interconnected, we kissed some more, touched each other's bodies...just enjoyed the nice moment. We talked a bit afterwards, relaxed. And then, when my weight was too much, I got off of him.

I fucking LOVE this man. I NEED him in my life, I need him by my side and inside me...
And after writing this, I need another round 😂

Sorry for the hornyposting, but I love loving this man and enjoy every second of it ♥️

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[–] FRYD@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Looks super cute. I don’t think that goes against the “tight and loose” rule. The top is flowy with baggy sleeves and the bottoms are fitted. I also think you got high waisted shorts and that’s where they’re supposed to be.

Great fit though! Love it!

Edit: also don’t worry too much about the “tight and loose” rule. It’s more like a rule of thumb than a law. If you think an outfit isn’t working or are having a hard time pairing stuff, consider it. If you like how an outfit looks, wear it and don’t worry about rules.

[–] AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Thank youuu 😭

I also think you got high waisted shorts and that’s where they’re supposed to be.

Definitely! But I still kinda want to get low waisted ones, to actually show this waist off...I'll grab a pair off of Vinted.

Thank you. I actually did treat the tight and loose rule as law 😆
But you're right. If something works and feels good, I should just wear it.

Thanks 🩷

[–] FRYD@sh.itjust.works 3 points 22 hours ago

Imo, I think high waisted bottoms are pretty good for showing off the waist. It gives you a smooth curve from the waist to the thighs, but try out lower cut stuff and see if you like it. I gotta put on a bit more weight before I think I can pull off low cuts well.

[–] erinmeow@piefed.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Hi Erin <3

Nyaa :3

[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Thank youuu 💜

[–] bendovertherainbow@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You look fantastic to me! I can't say I'm good with fashion or anything, but you look great to me.

Also, be sure to let your bf know that he is envied!

[–] AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Thank youuuu! I'm not good with fashion either yet, but I do try

Also, be sure to let your bf know that he is envied!

Thanks, I will. But I'm really not the prize in this relationship 😆
His energy, his smile, his personality...I'm so lucky to have him

SpoilerAlso amazing in bed, but I already mentioned that in my post, lol

Thank you so much! 💜

[–] bendovertherainbow@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Well now I'm just envious of both of you! 😁

And I disagree, I'd say your fashion sense is right on

[–] AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 23 hours ago

Well now I'm just envious of both of you! 😁

Thank you! But don't be. We're going through some ups and downs right now (completely my fault btw), but we still love each other...
2.5+ years, fully intending to keep going ♥️

And I disagree, I'd say your fashion sense is right on

It's so not, but thanks anyway 😭

[–] greatwhitebuffalo41@piefed.social 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I didn't realize where I was and I was confused at first. I'm like "what? She's so cute! Idk why she's anxious." So at least by that pic, adorable and passing. Get it girl.

Side note, if it doesn't feel good, you won't feel good. Maybe find something that fits better for comfort so you can feel as stunning as you look.

[–] AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I didn’t realize where I was and I was confused at first. I’m like “what? She’s so cute! Idk why she’s anxious.” So at least by that pic, adorable and passing. Get it girl.

Thank you so much! I don't even deserve words that kind 😭

Maybe find something that fits better for comfort

I definitely will...
I can feel another clothing shopping spree incoming 😆. I'll find something nice, comfortable and, hopefully flattering.

Thank you! 🩷

[–] greatwhitebuffalo41@piefed.social 2 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

You're welcome! The second it feels good on you, the confidence gets easier!

[–] AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 22 hours ago

That's so true! ♥️

[–] eestileib@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Your waist looks very feminine in that shot.

Thank youuu 😭
I guess I'm blind then, but thanks for being so kind ❤️

[–] applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

i disagree i think that fit is cute af. the poofy sleeves and over the shoulder part give the vibe of a loose top on your arms/shoulders while being snug on your torso in a flattering way. also those shorts accentuate your hips so they go well with the narrow part of your top. its giving the feminine hourglass shape overall. that advice is more a general guideline anyway lol.

beauty is pain... some of my favorite outfits are a little restrictive but theyre so dam cute.

[–] AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

the poofy sleeves and over the shoulder part give the vibe of a loose top on your arms/shoulders while being snug on your torso in a flattering way. also those shorts accentuate your hips so they go well with the narrow part of your top

Awww, thank you 🥺

its giving the feminine hourglass shape overall

I'm not an hourglass tho 😭
My waist is just a bit slim, cause I don't eat enough, and it's very, very subtle. This outfit in particular completely hides my waist, which makes me reconsider the fit...

This is what I mean

These are old, but I don't think it matters in this case. I think you get it.

It just makes me look...fat? Makes my stomach look way bigger 😭
At least the red top shows more skin and actually makes me look skinny...
This is kinda nice but I'd like to show more of my waist...

Thank you anyway ❤️
You're way too kind

[–] DaPorkchop_@lemmy.ml 2 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I'm not an hourglass tho 😭

spoken by the girl who posted this less than 2 weeks ago
you most definitely are :3

[–] AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 7 hours ago

But it's an illusion 😭
It's the angle and my back being arched, I swear. And besides, I'm sitting 😭😭😭

Shoulders are way too broad. I'm unfortunately an upside-down triangle, which makes me dysphoric 😔

[–] gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

i think the jorts look fine. at least what i can tell (i don't have a picture of the alternative), jorts covering waist (i.e. high-rise jorts) are actually kinda hot. it's also important that they're high-rise on the lower part (ass).

also the sweater (or what it is) looks comfy but yeah if it doesn't feel comfy, that sucks. i know some clothes that always shift and i always have to adjust them which is super annoying. i wouldn't give too much about the tight-loose rule because tight-tight can also look good (consider skin-tight catsuits covering the whole body etc).

jorts covering waist (i.e. high-rise jorts) are actually kinda hot

Huh. And here I am, considering low-rise clothing, including jorts, every day. I think I'll stick to high-rise then

it’s also important that they’re high-rise on the lower part (ass)

They're definitely high-rise on that part 😆
I'd argue that they make my ass look way better than my waist (I have some pictures on my profile, here

also the sweater (or what it is) looks comfy but yeah if it doesn’t feel comfy, that sucks. i know some clothes that always shift and i always have to adjust them which is super annoying

Yeah. I like the look of the sweater, but it's just really uncomfortable...
That's why I like the red top so much. It's comfortable, I love how it looks and it's easy to readjust.

i wouldn’t give too much about the tight-loose rule because tight-tight can also look good (consider skin-tight catsuits covering the whole body etc)

You're probably right...
Thanks so much for the feedback 🩵

[–] UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You know it's summer when you see stems that good.

[–] AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

when you see stems that good

Dumb question, but...stems? OwO
Also, thanks 💜

[–] UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Aha. I see, thanks 💜

Mine do kinda look like stems or sticks 😭
I should gain a little weight...

[–] UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

There are plenty of girls who would kill for legs like that. But definitely do what feels good.

[–] AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 23 hours ago

I've been told by my bf that I have long, pretty legs suited for a model... but I'd still do A LOT just to be 20cm shorter 😭

[–] savvie@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 day ago