Hmm... As someone into psychology I don't like people's use of psychopath and sociopath and narcissist to describe selfish people who commit heinous acts. It pathologizes what we know is a product of capitalist environment, something real people with ASPD and NPD rarely benefit from. It's a matter of peoplle speaking on things they haven't investigated. I have similar hangups with the use of "pedophile" to describe CSA perpetrator despite the two groups rather rarely overlapping.

I don't mean this dismissively, but it's kind of impossible for people to do anything about this if they don't know what terms you have in mind, or who is using them. If you don't feel safe bringing it up in detail publicly, you could consider reaching out to the admins in some way and see what they might be willing to put together for additional community guidelines if it's a consistent problem. We can't mind-read in order to act differently, so I'm not sure what we would do with this information, apart from trying to guess at what terms are triggering you and have you confirm/deny (which could be triggering), or offer sympathy and leave it at that (which is something, but doesn't solve your problem).

Personally, I have very little idea of how/when to accommodate on such a thing. There doesn't seem to be consistent convention on it and other than maybe one term that comes to mind at the moment, it is very non-obvious to me what terms are going to be a trigger. I'm also unclear on how it works for people who do get triggered in this way, if it's "the general topic being discussed" or if it is very specific words. And if it is words themselves, can they vary from person to person who has trauma even within the same kind of trauma? In other words, I am wondering, what are the specific challenges of accommodating it. Is it as simple as a list of words that are easy to avoid, is it more about warnings on subject matter, like how does that work.

Not trying to put this all on you to explain. Just saying that I don't really know what to do with the information.

P.S. You aren't "stupid and weak". A physiological reaction is just that - it's something that happens before you can consciously decide whether it should. There are therapeutic approaches to trying to help with it, but the reaction itself is not your fault. It's not like you're deciding to have a trauma response. Therapy also isn't a magic fix. But if you have any options there, it may help with coping, so that you feel more empowered in the face of this instead of fearing it as much. This does not preclude people trying to accommodate better. Both could make a difference together.

No living being on this planet is weak or stupid for having a dysergulated nervous system as a result of trauma. Any serious materialist reading your post should understand how trauma responses form and get triggered instead of falling back on protestant brainworms where everything bad is a personal moral failure.

Ableism is a huge issue in society at large and leftist spaces are hardly any better than the average. People should make an effort to accomodate and at least meet you in the middle instead of putting all the pressure on you to pull yourself up by your mental bootstraps and ensure your trauma isn't too visible and annoying. Especially when the accomodation in question is as simple as being more careful with the choice of words in a written format where you can pause and review before posting.

Don't hesitate to stand up for yourself and make demands. If you don't feel comfortable pointing out the specific terminology you have an issue with publicly, you can message me and I will do my best to keep it in mind and avoid it. And if I am among the people who make you uncomfortable, feel free to call me out.

There are a bunch of problems here still, like people posting NSFW content without tagging it.

How can I browse here in public if it's very common to have heavily upvoted posts of some very well known fascist/imperialist with some title that may be sarcastic, but the people around me who could see wouldn't know.

Those people need some reeducation...

Have you tried broaching the subject directly to the people who use such language? Or do you feel they are perhaps doing it intentionally? Do you worry that if you do tell them it bothers you, that it will itself be stressful?

You could block them (pretty sure this stops you from seeing their posts).

is this about me? sorry for that post i made it in a haste but i deleted it now

I admit, I’m a socialist enough to know Lemmygrad is home. But I’ve had to break free of my capitalist programming, and as a cis white hetero male, I say I get it, and I think I get it, and I think I get it better than the average Burger Don and Mel.

If I don’t, correct me and I’ll apologize.