I'm sick and tired of men telling me that rape culture doesn't exist, that rape victims should have done something different, they should have worn something different, they should have not gone out alone, I'm fucking sick of all of it.

We have a problem with misogyny and rape in this country. It doesn't exist in a vacuum on its own.

Trump is merely a symptom of the rot.

Every time rape culture comes into the limelight, I remember a party in college where a friend, well call her blue, was so drunk she was pants-off propositioning several people. All of us were like "Blue if you're down tomorrow, that's cool. But like, go to bed."

Not Nick. Name not redacted. I went into their room and cock blocked. Straight to Nick "brother you're way more cogent than her. This is rape, and everyone here knows it."

Or, sorry to both sides here, but the time Jenna, name not redacted, came downstairs with a suggestive giggle and grin after we had all just helped our friend James (not his name) to bed, in his own home at his house for a graduation party. Jenna, that was rape. And I said it out loud to you in front of everyone. And you giggled like it was cute.

There's a small percentage of humans among us that don't respect others autonomy. They need to be outed. They need to be held accountable. We need them away from the rest of us.

Fuck you Nick. Fuck you Jenna.

This is horrific, and sounds like actual terrorism in that it is a violent act with an apparent political motive. I hope she is safe and gets justice for what was done to her.

Completely insane that there are comments here assigning any degree of blame to her for this situation. The fact that it was 2 in the morning isn't an invitation to rape or be otherwise assaulted.

Hell, I don't care if someone were nude and fixing a sign that advertised their services as a prostitute. Still not "asking for it".

I'm sure the cops will definitely use the flock cameras to identify her attackers.

/s

This is a horrific story. We need stronger laws surrounding rape. I guarantee you, that if republican men were being raped, we would have death penalty laws against rape.

I understand the memory block the trauma of rape can cause. My ex drugged and raped me in my own home, in my own bedroom, during my own goddamn birthday party with family and friends just a shout away. Everyone thought I was just super fucking drunk, as I had turned 21 and was drinking heavily. I was drunk, but the drugs I was given in the last drinky ex gave me had me unable to stand within minutes. My ex told everyone he'd go tuck me in so I could rest and everyone thought the last of the alcohol I'd had hit me all at once. He essentially dragged me to my bed and tossed me onto it like a sack of potatoes. I didn't pass out as quickly as I would have liked. The drugs paralyzed me and I was very much aware of the things my ex was doing, but I couldn't do a damn thing about it. Thankfully I passed out before he started the penetrative part of the rape. I woke up naked and in awful pain all over, but especially down there. I often sleep nude or nearly nude because I get overheated easily, so I didn't think anything of it and figured the pain was just a hangover.

I blocked out all memory for five years as a survival mechanism and my mental health tanked when the memories came back. It took another three years for me to seek therapy. All of the evidence is circumstantial, as he wore protection or was just unable to cum. There were no witnesses and no concrete evidence other than my memories that resurfaced, me waking up naked, and the pain.

The mental healing has been so rough. I can't imagine what this woman is going through. Her experience sounds far more traumatic than mine was. I hope she can get the help she deserves and needs and that the bastards who hurt her get what's coming to them. I will never get justice for what happened to me, but I hope every other victim can.

I can already hear the Republicans making fucked up jokes about this.

Fellow men:

Believe women. Do not allow mysogyny in your circles. Don't even laugh at the jokes. Speak out. When you hear people talk about having harmed a woman or planning to, report it. Don't just go on the internet and say you're a feminist or support women - actually do it, every day.

I hope she succeeds in life, and that those two men are killed. Rapists, just like unjustifiable killers, have no place among humanity.

Well, even if this was politically motivated, she's not a conservative and doesn't have the name Charlie Kirk, so Republicans won't give a flying fuck.

I fucking hate rapists with every fiber of my being. I'd skin god alive if it meant I could torture every single rapists that has ever walked this forsaken planet. The soulless, mindless, evil you have to have in you to force yourself on someone .

My partner is a survivor, and I swear on any god that is listening if I ever get the chance, god have mercy on my soul the things I would do to them.

Fucking sick motherfuckers.

Wow. Top Ten Incels of Lemmy are all here, and I know I'm not even seeing all of the comments because some are already blocked.

wow, I don't think people like this can be repaired. They should be locked away for life (with minimal comforts, basically a monk like life) and that energy should be spent on their kids and younger generation. Except ofcourse we are talking about the Trump administration, Trump probably thinks she got what she deserved. So yeah, quite hopeless.

I went to Fox News to read the comment section about this. It's as expected - vile and calling her a liar.

At the risk of being called a "not all men apologist" here, I, as a man, can't fathom how anyone could be motivated to rape someone. The mere thought of violating consent to such a degree is physically repulsive to me. And to then add physical assault to that and violate someone who is unconscious, I am at a loss for words. In fact, I can't even being to imagine how you can even go through with that act physically.

At some level it makes me think that the people perpetrating these acts aren't even human, but that's also a way too convenient excuse to let them off the hook. The really challenging part for me (and I suppose many other men) is accepting that they ARE human, and they walk among us. I have no idea how to deal with this, legitimately.

I always presume that everyone I meet is a reasonable, non-violent, "normal" person, and it's things like this (rape statistic numbers) that shatter that world view to the point of leaving me simultaneously feeling incredibly angry, powerless, and paranoid about my fellow humans.

I am so sorry for her and all other victims who've had to experience something so far beyond what I can even begin to imagine, and I know that nothing I say here will make a difference. I hope you're able to heal back to some semblance of yourself before this happened to you, and I will support both monetarily and vocally any effort to eradicate this behaviour from our societies.

Downvote me if you want for providing this personal perspective in a thread about a victim (and victims) of rape. I don't intend to grandstand here, take attention away from the victim(s), or make myself look like some sort of white knight. I just need a place to share my perspective and I hope Lemmy will allow me to do so.