I know this is a thing on Reddit where idiot kids will circumvent ToS and subreddit rules by deleting their commment because it remains as a notification, while removing any reportable trace, but that’s not how Lenny works. Deleted comments show that a person commented but does not show they comment.

So, why is this so common?

(If this isn’t the place to ask, my apologies. I just don’t know what the right pace to ask it is if this isn’t the one. Also. I’m blocking all the clowns that think it’s funny to comment and delete.)

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[–] 114 points 1 week ago (6 children)

sometimes I say something dumb then realize it's dumb.

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    Sometimes mine spins and then posts twice. Sometimes i realize that I'm replying to the wrong comment. Sometimes the typos and autocowrongs are so bad that it's unintelligible. Sometimes the written words don't come across the way i intended. 🤷

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    [–] 40 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (5 children)

    I’ve done it because I’ve realized I misread something in the comment I replied to, making myself look stupid 🤷‍♂️

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  • [–] 8 points 1 week ago* (2 children)

    I generally strike it all out, add an edit line, explain that I misread something, and apologize.

    That’s just who I am though. I’m not saying you should do it, but I’m suggesting an alternate action. I’d rather be honest that I fucked up than hide it because it shows growth, and I also hope that it encourages other to realize it’s ok to make a mistake and reflect.

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    [–] 39 points 1 week ago*

    Created by deletor

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  • [–] 21 points 1 week ago* (3 children)

    because i realize i don't want my inbox to be full of people mad at me.

    Protip for lemmy devs: if there was a 'disable inbox replies' button I wouldn't do this.

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    [–] 18 points 1 week ago*

    Sometimes my first reaction to shit-takes is anger. I usually don't want that to be my comment. I'm trying to stay empathetic and have a constructive discussion, because I do not want Lemmy to become like Reddit and I think empathy and arguing in good faith is what makes the difference.

    So I'm usually only letting the anger out when my opposite is arguing in bad faith.

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  • [–] 17 points 1 week ago (1 child)

    I typically stick with what I say, for better or for worse. But I have deleted maybe two comments in the past; usually because I recognized how poorly I reacted and felt the person didn’t deserve my stupidity.

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    [–] 15 points 1 week ago*

    My top two reasons are realizing I posted somewhere I maybe shouldn’t and realizing I shared personal identifying information. A bit too late for the latter once it’s out there but you can’t win ‘em all 🤷🏼‍♀️

    The other day someone posted an interesting boundary map of their farthest travels and I thought it was a fun idea, made my own and uploaded it and realized after posting that a Europe comm might not want Americans posting so I deleted it for example.

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    [–] 14 points 1 week ago*

    Sometimes I accidentally reply to the wrong comment.

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    [–] 12 points 1 week ago

    I did it because trump won a second term and made some pretty threatening comments about people doing/saying the things I said. so I got rid of them.

    that said, I stopped for two reasons;

    1. it's a pita and my comments are federated to other instances anyway
    2. fuck him
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  • [–] 11 points 1 week ago* (3 children)

    Sometimes it's because I've said something stupid or that, in hindsight, comes off as stupid.

    Usually it's because my comment has sparked an argument that I lose interest in continuing.

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    [–] 10 points 1 week ago

    I usually only delete if I replied to the wrong comment or accidentally replied to the main post instead of a comment. There are some good reasons.

    Also if I comment and then read down and I see I duplicated someone.

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    [–] 10 points 1 week ago (2 children)

    My dudes we can do the funniest thing ever

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    [–] 10 points 1 week ago (1 child)

    For me it’s because I: replied to the wrong comment, wrote a response that was wrong because I didn’t fully read or understand the subject, or I decided that it wasn’t worth it.

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    [–] 9 points 1 week ago (1 child)

    I don't usually delete my comments but mistakes happen. Even if I notice and delete them immediately, the trace of my comment lives there, because Fediverse. Basically you cannot put back in Genie once it's out of bottle.

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    [–] 9 points 1 week ago

    Usually because I'm feeling strongly enough about something to comment, then I'm reminded that engaging the random public is akin to pissing into a fan, and that's not very pleasant

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  • [–] 8 points 1 week ago (1 child)

    It is not common for me to see deleted comments. Do you tend to see this in certain communities?

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    [–] 8 points 1 week ago (5 children)

    On piefed you can give a reason something is deleted. Nifty feature.

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    [–] 8 points 1 week ago (1 child)

    It happens more here, for some reason, that I comment on the post instead of under another comment, so I delete the one and writes a new.

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    [–] 8 points 1 week ago (2 children)

    because it remains as a notification, while removing any reportable trace

    This.

    It's a chickenshit hit & run tactic for hate speech.

    Used mainly by those who decry hate speech online.

    Go Figger. .

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    [–] 8 points 1 week ago

    Only times I've done it it was because I accidentally replied to the wrong comment.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 week ago (4 children)

    I habitually delete about a month back to try and reduce the number of things that taken together could ID me. I’m not a particularly unique person but I’m sure with enough comments someone could get close.

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    [–] 7 points 1 week ago

    I’ve only deleted when I realized I broke a community’s rules.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 week ago (1 child)

    It’s unfortunately part of the the lemmy culture now. A lot of people instinctively react and post without thinking, which they later regret. We’ve lost a lot of critical thinking when it comes to the internet culture, so here we are.

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    [–] 5 points 1 week ago

    there's a lot of paranoid mouthy kids here

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