Man, I don’t care where you fall on the rainbow/CIS spectrum, that’s a really tough metric to meet.
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Talking to people who care about being gay is just as draining as talking to people who care about being straight
About the latter gay person in the post, its genuinely exhausting to deal with someone so opinionated. Say something that they might interpret as having the "wrong" opinion, and they'll spend like half an hour trying to educate you.
Idk if you've seen the other reply to me. But yeah... I know what you mean all too well haha
Worse is when you're talking to a gay guy and you realise he's actually a basic 19 year old white girl from Oakland who just happens to be a grown-ass man.
I wish all gays were the absolute caricatures and stereotypes that homophobes act like they are. Life would be so much more fun.
I wish that I was good at art, and writing, and theater, because that would mean that I have talent.
I wish for a gajillion dollars.
I'm proud that my screenshot has been circulating around but... why is astrids head chopped off?? 😭😭
edit: found my post https://sh.itjust.works/post/38777574
cuz she a queen✨️🇫🇷
idk, I found it like this ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
ooo that's interesting, where did you find it?
idk, reddit probably
that's probably the first instance of reddit taking a meme from Lemmy and not the other way around 😂
I'll make sure to make more memes then so I too can see my own meme on reddit
I apologize I'm halfway between these two
Ugh yeah this is the worst. It's the actual normal person, where you are exposed and got it, but moved on because it wait wasn't a huge deal.
I always wonder if it's that maybe I just need to find my people and haven't done it yet.
I'm more the opposite, I can hang with both because I can be the weirdo in normal circles and the one who's not that into that scene type
Like I can jam with a fandom but I need breaks from it and too long without more content leaves me less invested unless it's something that has a strong emotional history for me.
I do have to step away when a space gets too bpd though, but that's because ptsd
Well, stay off Instagram and BlueSky then
I fucking hate Bluesky. There were like 5 people on that site that were funny, all were trans. I think that says quite a bit about their demographics. Too many people named Cheryl in their mid 40s.
and real life too, apparently
Maybe you havent talked to them for long enough, it takes a very long time before im comfortable just being myself around others irl.
I would imagine that most of our brains, interests, communication styles and socialized behaviors are immensely multifaceted where it would require a reasonably nuanced stimulus to trigger a response within the realm of their expectation. I don't expect many people to appreciate my niche hyperfixations and, frankly, some of them aren't even popularized in a way that I can easily articulate. I struggle to imagine a situation where it would slip out during everyday conversation.