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Hi! I've been extremely tired this week and nearly forgot that I was hosting one so I'm writing this last minute! I couldn't think of anything so I'm going to write about one of my hamsters who is not Biggs; Meredith

Meredith was another hamster of mine from a few years ago during the early days of COVID, and she was the absolute sweetest little creature I had ever met. Very friendly, very gentle. She loved exploring anywhere I put her into and never bit me ~~okay she did once ever~~. She was an absolute sweetheart and bundle of love and was with me during some of the rougher parts of my life

She unfortunately died very suddenly out of the blue one day at a terribly young age showing no symptoms of anything wrong with her prior, which breaks my heart to this very day

I never had her as long as any other hamster of mine but I don't think I had any other hamster touch my heart in quite the same way. I miss you, girl


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[–] CDommunist@hexbear.net 24 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Came out to all of my friends today, they all knew me as a trans nb they/them

Now they know me as a woman comfy-cool

[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

Yeah, I came out to everyone as NB, but I skipped right to she/her peltier-laugh

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[–] Beetle@hexbear.net 23 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

When random people I don’t know well bring up trans rights stuff while talking to me I’m always a bit suspicious that they clocked me and that that’s why they brought it up.

[–] AntifaSuperWombat@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago

Something similar happened to me once. I was at a small festival with 3 other people, one of whom knew that I was trans, because I told them right before that. We were just talking about the usual stuff until suddenly the 2 that didn’t know started shitting on Rowling and talking about trans stuff.

I was completely baffled by that, because I’ve never seen cis people bring that up by themselves, not even today. I just stood there and said nothing, while they continued. I was absolutely sure that the 3rd person must have outed me beforehand, and that the others just said that to make me feel more at ease.

But as it turned out, it was just a really weird coincidence and me not expecting such a thing ever happening because I live in a conservative area where trans stuff is ignored for the most part.

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 22 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

update

Came out to her. She is accepting. Talked about it a little bit. I didn't tell her my name though. Don't know why. But yea, went well and I feel good about that. Its nice not feeling so alone.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

One other thought on this same line of thinking, when I first told my therapist one of his first questions was my sexuality. And I've kinda been worried every time since someone would ask but thankfully they haven't 😅

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

party-blob Congratulations!!! party-blob

trans-heart bridget-pride

Maybe one day you can share your name with her!

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[–] buh@hexbear.net 20 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I was leaving the bathroom as some guy was going in and he had to go back out to double check that he was in the men's bathroom lol

[–] Angel@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago

Reminds me of this time I was going to the restroom, and there was this old white dude behind me going there, too. I was thinking that he was just going to wait his turn and go in after I left, but when we got to the bathroom doors, he just tries to go into the men's restroom first, and I let him. I wait outside for him to get out, and he sees me standing there and says, "Oh, you were trying to use the men's restroom?" with a pretty baffled face and tone. And I just responded with a masculine voice and said, "Yeah..."

What gets me is that this was much earlier on in my transition.

On this note, fuck these gendered single-person restrooms especially.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 18 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

I got called to set up a gynecologist appointment in a few months 😵‍💫

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[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 18 points 2 weeks ago (6 children)

My lips too small; my teeth too big. I’m a mouse girl now.

[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago

Cheese to meet you.

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[–] yewler@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

family nonsenseMy mom has been absolutely horrendous to me ever since I came out. She's refused to talk about trans stuff with me even though I have asked 6 times now. She has avoided it every single time. She's been guilt tripping me and acting like I'm being unreasonable and needy when literally all I'm asking is for her to call me by my name, or at the very least tell me why she won't. It's been a thing for like a month and a half now. Since she was ignoring me when I was trying to talk to her, I ignored her when she needed information from me, and it led to a 6 hour inconvenience on her part. Now she's gotten it into her head that she's been nothing but supportive and great this whole time and I've gone no contact at the slightest push back from her, when in actuality, I actively tried to talk to her for a month and a half and she ignored me. I guess she's getting what she wants, because I'm not planning on talking to her again after this. She's acting like I never gave her a chance, but I did. That was it. And she stepped all over it.

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[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 17 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

I was just reflecting on the day I came out to myself as a trans woman and I feel all the emotions flooding back to me and now I'm sitting here in bed bawling the happiest tears I've cried in a long time. This feels like pure trans joy and catharsis.

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago (7 children)

Finally a good day 😢haven't happy cried in a long time and have been off and on all day. Mostly about telling my friend but also reconnected with one of my online friends and played some CS/the finals and it was a really good time. idk today has been a good one.

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Going on a date with a beautiful trans woman this weekend. im-fuckin-gay

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

Broke: I'm considering orchie for anti androgen reasons

Bespoke: I'm considering orchie so my high waisted pants are more comfortable.

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[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago

I'm starting to become uncomfortable with how gay people here are.

spoilerIt's not gay enough. I'd be more comfortable if it were gayer.

[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 16 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Against my better judgment I am getting the Amazon skirt. madeline-stare

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[–] Seryph@lemmygrad.ml 16 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (4 children)

Mfw I'm somehow getting gender euphoria from a damn pen. It's not even anything femme it's literally just a nice simple pen that feels great when writing and twirling. Why is my brain like this.

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[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 15 points 1 week ago

Went on garden date with wife doggirl-grin

[–] EllenKelly@hexbear.net 15 points 1 week ago

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[–] AntifaSuperWombat@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

I just went to the knitting group I’ve joined for the first time today, and it’s been absolutely wonderful. The people there were so damn nice and didn’t care at all that I’m trans. They also gave me a lot of help, which I desperately needed, because I’m still a complete beginner, so I was very grateful for that. The only thing that I had to get used to was that everyone else was twice my age. There are younger people of course, but they couldn’t make it today.

And today is also my 5th anniversary of starting HRT, which still boggles my mind how it’s already been half a decade. I know it shouldn’t surprise me that it feels a lot shorter than the 5 years I had to wait before I could finally start but it still does. Like, if you told me that it’s only been 2 years, I would fully believe you.

The only thing that really annoys me though is that I’m completely overwhelmed by my emotions now. It’s like a tsunami composed of all kinds of emotions hitting me head-on. I wish there was some kind of switch that could turn them off, because I’m having a hard time calming down again.

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 15 points 2 weeks ago

dipshit customer: "hey how come you're the only one here wearing the mask?"

the answer i should have given: "the same reason you're wearing sunglasses indoors"

the answer i actually gave: "personal choice"

the REAL answer: "i'm a trans woman and didn't bother shaving today"

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 14 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

horny postAte a trans girl out wirh a neo vagina. If I hadn't seen her (naked, for sex) before bottom surgery I wouldnt have even known tbh. Smelt like, tasted like, felt like, got wet like, a vagina she would've been born with - even had her (called it prostate but dont think it was) more or less right where the g spot is in birth vagina. I'll be getting my bottom surgery from the same clinic she got hers, so it was also like looking at what I could have

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[–] Starlet@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

new puppygirl experiments underway

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[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

volsex, HORNYAte my partner out right before bed and first thing in the morning and we've both been fucking glowing all day long. I love the way they squirm and moan and beg for more. My lips and tongue were tingling for hours afterward (and still are actually, I had just tuned it out). Estrogen seems to have only made me hornier, or maybe girl horny just makes more sense for my brain. trans-heart panting

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[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago

I dry my nail polish using my gpu exhaust fan

Gamer gurl trans-undertale

[–] DerEwigeAtheist@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago

I now have a girlfriend, which is great! But she is so horribly dysphoric that she thinks life will just always be that way. Forever. Gotta buy some nice clothes with her, and love her lots.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 14 points 2 weeks ago (6 children)

I got approved for bottom surgery!!!!

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[–] Beetle@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

I’ve had 2 recent experiences where I felt like a gay guy was flirting with me and there’s no way that’s actually what was happening because I don’t really look like a guy yet. It does make me excited for the future though

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[–] Bolshechick@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

sexFollow up on https://hexbear.net/comment/6124212 She came over for a few days, and we basically spent them high and fucking. It was amazing!

I need to freak out less and be more confident.

Also I'm fully in my slut era, I hooked up with three other people in the last week too :D God I love being a cute girl

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[–] Seryph@lemmygrad.ml 13 points 2 weeks ago

Turns out I'm actually a very expressive person. Been having so many online meetings at work and the amount of times I just smile or have some visible reaction to people is really cute I think. Maybe even starting to actually like my smile after years of hating it.

[–] DogGirl@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

doggirl-smart The power of Marxism-Leninism transformed a KatGirl into a DogGirl, marvelous

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[–] Eco@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

i wish for summaries of reddit threads disguised as articles to be stricken from the internet

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[–] SockOlm@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

I've successfully finished my finals :)

Stalin would be proud catgirl-salute

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 13 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (8 children)

coming out/worryingOut to almost all my friends now. Meant to be all of them but ran out of time. He knows I want to have a serious convo though. Who let me do this 😭 I don't know how to navigate this. It's never been modeled for me. I don't know any trans people irl idk how to do this. I can kinda tell they haven't either. I really hope things don't become awkward. I can't believe I'm actually doing this. Actually living as a trans person, being out and stuff...

Also people have offered to help me but I don't know what I need from them. Or what I could ask for (like something gender affirming) that wouldn't feel super awkward. Especially thinking about my cisf friend.

Wanted to put these thoughts to words for a few hours and now I'm super tired, actually just fell asleep for like an hour, I hope this makes sense.

Oh also and like they've said they're supportive, and one has definitely been trying I feel like, I still worry about what they actually think of me 😢

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[–] Disaster_of_Passion@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago

I'm supposed to sit at my desk and work even when I'm overwhelmed with sapphic yearning? wtf, this is homophobic.

[–] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

Trying to figure out what I potentially want to do with my hair going forward, but it’s hard because you see people with all kinds of hairstyles but you have no idea if your hair is suitable for it or what they have done to it necessarily. kel-screm

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I'm like 4 years too late to the party with this game but there's this one little detail about Hades that I noticed and absolutely adore and need to talk about for a second?

almost every character has a unique thing they refer to Zagreus as. "Prince Zed/Your Highness. Lad. Boy. Little Hades. Nephew. Grandson. My Kin. My Little Godling. Cousin. My Son. My Child. Zag/Man. Stranger. Hon. Boyo. All of those are from different characters and it gives the game so much life that half the cast has a unique thing they refer to Zagreus, the player character as and it's just... MMMM. peak writing

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[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

All my friends pretend to be woke but they all doggirl-sleep, curious probably having gay ass dreams just like the girl reading this comment phoenix-evidence

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[–] Beetle@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Had a powerful dream where all my previous lovers outed themselves as gay for me in a ritualistic way and begged me to date them. I stepped on them and walked away, they don’t deserve me.

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (26 children)

Okay

I've obviously not been in the best spot lately

Is coming out to my friend/manager a good idea or no? She's gay and has gay friends tbf. But I don't know about trans people. Also my shave still fucking sucks. It'd be in like 9 hours, maybe a bit more. Or uh I could chicken out again. Just has been on my mind a lot.

[–] Thallo@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago

It's always a gamble with the cis, but being queer increases their chance of being supportive.

You also don't have to worry about things like your shave. You can say that you're not safe at home to transition, so you may not look it, but you're a trans girl.

It would be nice to be around someone who knows who you are at work.

After that, if you feel safe, you can talk name and pronouns with her.

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (3 children)

Oh yeah, i’m on that bi-cycle sicko-biker ! hexbear-bi

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[–] Eco@hexbear.net 12 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

you're telling me a chihuahua fridayed this rice?? circle-quad-2

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[–] Carcharodonna@hexbear.net 11 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Got a haircut recently and this time it actually turned out really well. Last time I got my hair butchered and was really upset about it.

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 11 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

Made the mistake of looking at pictures of myself today. It's so over

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