Ask Lemmy

I think its way smaller than Reddit and its very easy to recognize frequent posters/commenters. You also have more impact more easily.

I would echo the others on that it is your choice on how much info you give out about yourself.

I think its crazy to get told that you are a manipulator when I think you are genuine. Especially with age I feel it can be very different how people behave in specific age ranges. If this interaction has felt like too much I think that is very understandable and its always your choice on how to proceed.

I also have to echo the others in saying that I found your postings very entertaining and would be sad to see you go, but you will always have to do whats best for you. I think the other commenter is an asshat though.

Personally I have already deleted some accounts, and having a new fresh slate can be real nice. So experiment with whatever you feel like. And thanks for sharing your silly thoughts until now. Especially a few of the hornier memes were perfect things I could forward to my friends and they also loved it.

It would be sad to see you go, your sense of humor has definitely made Lemmy more enjoyable lately. That said Lemmy isn't worth it if your mental health would suffer. Do what's best for you, and if that happens to be posting great shit posts then we will all benefit

If Lemmy is a service you've enjoyed and you aren't trying to hurt anyone, why let random jerks ruin it for you and chase you off? Just block them and forget they ever existed. This is the way.

This is the last of my social media. It sucks here. Im only on like 1 hour a week.

Just know in life there is no person or product so bad, that it cant at least serve as an bad example.

Yeah, visibility/exposure carries risks. But it also provides protection.

I decided not to care. It's a risk I'm willing to take, and whatever may come, I won't regret it.

All I wanted to do was make people feel some fun and giggles.

To keep people down, they literally have algorithms to make people miserable and hateful. So in a way, you can become a target, and I'm not even joking. Also, people just wanting to kill light, I guess.

If you decide to keep this account, I'd suggest not deleting it in the event that something should happen, and then document everything. There's more motivation for a crime in darkness than one in broad daylight.

I'm sorry if this is a bit rough to read. I don't think anything will happen, and certainly hope so. But I thought I'd share some basic security I believe in, for the rather open way in which you engage with this platform, to maybe make you feel safer.

Delete your account and create a new one. Problem solved.

But also, two things. First, always be questioning yourself. Those jerks might have a point. But second, jerks are jerks and you shouldn't listen to them or be bothered by them.

If you can balance those two ideas, you'll do really well online, and probably in real life too.

So you’re 18/f/cali and someone doesn’t believe you, I mean, personally I wouldn’t be putting personal info out there.

Saw someone comment that you’re like the female Mickey7, and yeah that seems spot on lol. I mean, not everyone’s going to like what you post, but that’s why it’s shitposting.

Who cares what people think, as long as you’re enjoying posting stupid stuff.

Better than some people on here who create a new account every couple hours just to post 1 or two things, then delete their accounts to avoid being banned.

You do you.

Just block people.

And they can block you too.

There's a lot of weird people on Lemmy, that's not a bad thing, it's normal for online spaces at this stage. But some people will dominate your time if you let them.

Most recently, someone accused me of trying to manipulate people because of my age and gender.

"Online no one knows I'm not a dog"

That type of stuff rarely comes up, so when people just constantly mention it, it gets noticed.

So just stop saying it, and problem solved

Given that I will sometimes reflect for a whole day on just a comment getting a couple down votes, I can't imagine how someone who actually posts stuff feels.

But hey, it's the world wide web, you're bound to get a few people like that just like driving on a freeway, there's always a possibility of someone brake checking you because they disliked your coexist bumper sticker or something.

There isn't even a need to delete it, just make a new one.

When I switched from Reddit to Lemmy, it was my opportunity to start a fresh feed.

I stayed away from things like relationships and AITA, because they usually just got me pissed off and fighting with people.

I keep a few political things because I do want to hear what people are saying about current events, but most of my feed now is jokes, and fun conversation.

I feel that whenever I scroll on a community that allows US politics.

I find it amusing when people try to analyse me. They spend all that time and effort only to be that wrong.

Anyway keep up the good work, you're one of the funny people here even if you're a Republican Chinese communist feminist MGTOW spy here to cause disharmony in utopia.

Don't let dipshits run you out because their life is shit. Personally, I find your posts hilarious and look forward to them. It'd be a shame to lose you.

If you are talking about the people who don't believe you that you were born in 2008, that's just an aspect about the internet society we have to live with. A lot of people here only have a stereotypical idea of how people of a particular age-group (even their own) behave, especially in the internet. It's a little price for our anonymity that strangers won't accept that you behave outside of your stereotype.

Keep in mind that most of them don't mean you any harm. Predators that lure their victims with a younger age or otherwise problematic scammers are a big problem of the internet and people would rather wrongfully accuse you of that than letting such a scenario play out.

While personally I didn't feel suspicious of you or have no reason to care, when I think about it, I can see that people get irritated by a person who is often highlighting that they are 18. If you really are 18, you probably didn't even notice that and it's natural. But maybe you can imagine that from another perspective, it may look different.

Psst... The block button exists.

So, at risk of sounding like an online stalker, I saw that comment while scrolling from that “50 year old woman” and it was just odd. Don’t take it too hard. Then switched feeds and saw this post.

I say this as nicely as I can, but, this place is largely a collection of nerds, social outcasts, Reddit fugitives(ie nerds and outcasts lol), and people that have been banned from Reddit. Not all or even many interactions here will be status quo.

If it negatively impacts your life, leave, if it’s a social outlet, treat it as such, and don’t take it too hard.

As long as you always comment honestly, admit when you make a mistake, and apologize if need be, then why be concerned about it? If most people understood what you meant, and only one or two people misunderstood, then you might take a second to clarify for them. You don't owe anyone an explanation, though.

The only time I deleted an account is when someone I knew at work discovered my username.

In my experience, it doesn't matter where you are on the internet, you will always be faced with idiots who try to bring you down.

Don't let them win. Be yourself and politely ignore (and block) the hell out of these people. It is YOUR time and you should be able to live it the way YOU want it.

Best of luck and hope to see you around.

If you’re really just a teenage girl hanging out here, until you give proof that you are actually that, people will always wonder wtf you are doing here with all the nerds. And since posting pictures would be a terrible idea for so many reasons, no one will ever know and people will keep speculating or thinking it’s bullshit. And since this is a fringe anonymous communication platform, rightfully so. So idk just keep having fun

I create new accounts from time to time and purge the old ones. That affords me the ability to share myself and experiences without accumulating too much identifying information in one account. So I'd recommend it at some point but where that point is is up to you.

No but I try to keep back in public online interactions. No extremely personal stuff. Sharing opinions, memes, discussions but not much of myself.

Sure a dedicated person could profile me and come to some conclusions but I hope it's all vague enough. This version of me on Lemmy is only a part of my personality that feels safe for sharing.

And I think this is the way to go. Although people do tell me I have a problem opening up even with real life friends so 🤷

I deleted mine a few times to take long breaks from "social media" (not really a social media, Lemmy/Piefed is more of a forum). This one is probably here to stay. I said too much and my story is too unique, there's no running away and coming back with a new mask.

I think of this as "practice" for confrontations.

Idgaf about tankies falsely accusing me of being a "nazi". I get called racial slurs irl, so this isn't even half as bad lol. Good practice for irl confrontations, practicing to stay calm in face of adversity.

I regularly delete my account and make a new one. You can do so without removing old posts and comments.

And at lemmy.org they don't require an email. So you can have less data tied to your account(s).

someone accused me of trying to manipulate people because of my age and gender.

Your only problem is you haven't established hard boundaries for talking online.

Never use your real information, never reveal it, avoid even talking about it and if you have to give any details like age, location and gender, it's fine to make something up.

Perish the thought that socializing you do online will ever connect with your offline world, don't even go there. Hard rule, never blend the two, especially on public forums like Lemmy. With that rule, it won't matter what people say to you, you're shielded.

For that matter, tighten down ALL your social media, including your personal shit. Take down pictures and personal information. Socialize in person and establish real-world friendships and all of this will feel far less stressful.

I'm dead serious when I say it's very dangerous right now to have unsecured personal information online. If you DO delete your account, make sure you delete all your history as well.

because people analyzing my behavior and accusing me of things has started to get to me.

Why bother?

I’m wondering if you’ve ever felt something similar.

Most certainly: as an old dude that has been online since the mid-80s, I've had more than a few opportunities. 1) I learned to not care about perfect stranger's opinion about my person. 2) I also learned to not 'play' with strangers (not saying you are, how would I known, but if you do that may not be the smartest thing to do if you're interested in having interesting exchanges and discussions).

But I think I might delete my account and everything,

That's the nice thing about freedom: if that's what you want to do, by all means do it. Just, maybe, take a moment to decide beforehand if that's really what you want to do or if it's just some emotional reaction angry to something that happened. In the later case it may not be worth deleting your account ;)