[–] [S] 6 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I was afraid of men long before social media existed based on personal experiences receiving unwanted and inappropriate attention and comments. Note I'm not saying ALL men but this is based on personal experience, nothing to do with social media, what a stretch.

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  • [–] [S] 8 points 1 week ago (1 child)

    Being in line together is different. I'm curious though, if someone is giving you one word answers and seems like you don't wish to continue the conversation do you back off ?

    I talk to people in public a lot but if they seem closed off I'll end it

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  • [–] [S] 10 points 1 week ago (1 child)

    I know I have watched videos about this also, that people say they are not approached or feel like they can't approach others. My thing is body language and eye contact, if I'm out walking around making eye contact and we exchange a hello and see if more occurs fine. But if someone is totally closed off looking away.... take the hint. And like dear lord don't sit down without being invited to ! Chat a minute and ask first.

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  • submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by to c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world
     

    I was just sitting at the mall taking a break from mall walking. A man walked over to me when I wasn't even looking up. He said "I haven't seen you here before. " I said I wasn't really here to talk to people and got up and walked away. He said he would leave, he may even have said sorry. I said I was ready to leave anyway. In retrospect I think he may have just been slightly mentally challenged so I wish I had been a little softer, he did not turn out to be aggressive. Looking for suggestions on something still clear and firm but more polite? This scared me for some reason, I think how fast he walked up and sat down near me.

    Editing to add a key detail, he sat down close to me which is probably what made me more nervous than I would have otherwise been. I appreciate all the thoughtful feedback I've gotten and interesting discussion.

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