The breeders, crotch goblin, "hobby" position is among the stupidest reddit positions out there, and there's a lot of really dumb ones. Children of Men is a solid flick that goes into the societal collapse associated with "lack of breeding." It's also just so obvious that society needs to kinda build on itself in order to continue.

And yeah, humans are a disease! Okay. I just can't get my head around being so anti one's own existence. It just doesn't make sense to me.

And nobody's being a martyr. People have different lives situationally, and in an ideal world perhaps it wouldn't have an affect on your workday, but it does, and sometimes accommodations need to be made, and sometimes it just isn't fair, que sera.

Here's the thing then: nut up and demand it. The reason that employers cave to parents on these things is because they know the child will take priority and the parent will take that time regardless. As they should. Trying to tell half of the workforce that they need to prioritize the job over their children is not a battle you can win.

If you have a problem with that then you need to find an ultimatum that you're willing to stand your ground on. Otherwise just quit bitching because someone else received a benefit that you didn't.

you also need people to make kids who will be around to carry out these services when we are old farts. but also money yes.