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[–] 110 points 7 months ago (13 children)

I'm the one who did the dishes, cleaning, groceries, kids, after I cleaned she would make a mess then yell at me for being a slob and not keeping the house clean, also I worked full-time. When the dishwasher broke she blamed me because I'm the only one who loaded/unloaded it. when I fixed it with proof it wasn't my fault, it was still my fault.

abusive relationships really mess with your senses of reality.

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  • [–] 8 points 7 months ago

    Not the person you replied to, but I did. She's been trying to get me back ever since, despite living with her new boyfriend. He's as abusive as she is but she needs him for his car so I keep telling her she's met her perfect match and I'm not coming between them lol

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  • [–] 3 points 7 months ago (4 children)

    Dude are you me? Similar situation, my ex was/is a raging narcissist who would absolutely trash the house. Kitchen was a disaster because she was an aspiring cake decorator who never bothered to clean up after herself and would fill entire 8 foot folding tables with her crap for weeks on end. Never lifted a finger with the rest of the house, actively trashed everything and her strategy was to wait for me to reach a breaking point where I had to rage clean for my own sanity, then she'd do it all over again. She was and is a shit parent and a deadbeat. There's sooo much more and it all ended poorly... For her, at least. I'm out of that situation now, but it took me a long time to admit I was in an abusive relationship.

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  • [–] 5 points 7 months ago (3 children)

    However little resources are for women escaping abusive relationship, there are even less for men. there should be more resources. When I called the police when I was being hit, all they told me is that if I were to touch her they would take me away. but me getting mauled is OK for them.

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  • [–] 2 points 7 months ago (2 children)

    My saving grace was that the last time she hit me, it was on camera. Video evidence goes a long way toward forcing the hand of the police.

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