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[–] 110 points 7 months ago (13 children)

I'm the one who did the dishes, cleaning, groceries, kids, after I cleaned she would make a mess then yell at me for being a slob and not keeping the house clean, also I worked full-time. When the dishwasher broke she blamed me because I'm the only one who loaded/unloaded it. when I fixed it with proof it wasn't my fault, it was still my fault.

abusive relationships really mess with your senses of reality.

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  • [–] 8 points 7 months ago

    Not the person you replied to, but I did. She's been trying to get me back ever since, despite living with her new boyfriend. He's as abusive as she is but she needs him for his car so I keep telling her she's met her perfect match and I'm not coming between them lol

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    [–] 28 points 7 months ago (8 children)

    I think one of the issues couples have with cleaning is that everyone has different schedules and approaches

    I never clean during weekdays, sorry but work fucks me up and when I come home I want all relaxation

    When the weekend starts after my Saturday morning I'll go on a quick cleaning binge, and then Sunday night I do another clean binge and repeat

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  • [–] 11 points 7 months ago

    The issue is people assume their way is the only right way and when someone does it differently they interpret it as lazy or malicious, rather than responding with humility and trying to find out how their partner thinks.

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  • [–] 4 points 7 months ago

    I always found it overwhelming to get started on big messes, so cleaning everything up immediately would get around my executive dysfunction. When I got in a relationship with someone whose approach was to be a human hurricane and then deep clean every once in a while it was a culture shock and it took years of me being a bad partner to become more responsible. I didn't really understand the executive dysfunction so I self-loathed over it.

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  • [–] 8 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (4 children)

    Be @FuyuhikoDate@feddit.org.

    Finds a comic strip that i don’t like.

    This must be before my time, I must make my opinion known to all.

    Proceeds to publicly talk down on the comic for being ”old and out of touch”.

    Realizes Arc Raiders released in 2025.

    Shit.

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    [–] 22 points 7 months ago (17 children)

    But you still have to somewhat wash them before they go in the dishwasher.

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  • [–] 18 points 7 months ago (13 children)
  • [–] 18 points 7 months ago (2 children)

    The easy fix TL;DW (though you should, Alex is great) is to, right before starting the dishwasher, run the hot water until the tap is as hot as it gets. Drastically improved outcomes.

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  • [–] 22 points 7 months ago (5 children)

    My trick is to do the chores first, then with any leftover time I can do whatever I want guilt free.

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    [–] 15 points 7 months ago (1 child)

    My wife goes into complete reading trance when she gets her hands on a new novel. Nothing will get done until that book is finished. Any response will be delayed until the next chapter.

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  • [–] 13 points 7 months ago

    Ack no, not in my house. I cook, husband does the dishes usually. I clean the dishwasher filter, maintain the machine and tell him not to clean the dishes before they go in. He doesn't usually wash my cast iron because he was messing it up (which is not easy to do but he managed it) but all the regular dishes and most of the pots & pans are his world because he wants me to cook.

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  • [–] 12 points 7 months ago (4 children)
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    There's an old Mitch Hedberg joke that goes something like "This shirt is dry clean only, which means... it's dirty"

    I think the same applies exactly for dishes that aren't dishwasher safe. I have a dishwasher but my sink still has a pile of dishes waiting.

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  • [–] 10 points 7 months ago

    I’m gonna assume that the oopsies person has a job and is just on their day or hours off.

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  • [–] 9 points 7 months ago

    Uh, I do the dishes and the gaming and the laundry and vacuum and...

    But she's hot and makes more money, so its all good.

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  • [–] 7 points 7 months ago (15 children)

    I do 75% of the house work. Fuck this dated noise.Β 

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  • [–] 5 points 7 months ago (8 children)

    Is it a bad sign that I instantly recognized ARC raiders?

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    [–] 5 points 7 months ago (2 children)

    The opposite is normally true for my SO and I. They will still accuse me of making the mess but once I sort things into piles and show the mess is from them they are always very surprised.

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    [–] 5 points 7 months ago (1 child)

    We both work from home. We have neither excuses nor anyone to blame.

    We're just the third panel twice in a standoff with the dishes.

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    [–] 4 points 7 months ago

    Being a stay at home dad was fucking awesome!

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