cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/51465593

Damn. I didn't know that Roy was such a vanilla boy!

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[–] 22 points 1 month ago (4 children)

My ex left me because I wouldn't rape her, so she found someone who would.

And she wasn't doing the whole, "revisit your trauma in a situation where you have control," thing. She was never abused, and didn't even want there to be a safe word.

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  • [–] 18 points 1 month ago

    Not having a safe word is maybe over the line but I feel like in general that's just a case of indulging in a partner's fetishes/fantasies. It isn't really rape if both of you consented before hand, it's just role play. That said, I'd probably also want to meet somewhere in the middle, I'd have a hard time continuing if I was being asked to stop, even if consent had previously been given.

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  • [–] 11 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    Pretty sure somewhere on the internet I read that this was a super common fantasy, but I don't want to do the research to confirm. There's probably nuance to it, but it's definitely uncomfortable to consider.

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