She is 17, not a young child. We have been going over this for over a decade and it really comes down to her refusing to acknowledge things are not always exactly literal. We have gone over this with a therapist for over 5 years as well, because she gets so worked up about it. I have repeatedly shown her what clean means in various examples but she keeps falling back to specific nit picking every time.

Note thst I am not referring to some kind of spotless perfection. Just not having trash around and things tidy enough to vacuum and dust and other basic cleaning practices.

Guess I should have given every single detail so you wouldn't assume so much to twist it into some kind of blame game for a child not listening to their parent.