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[–] 7 points 18 hours ago*

One person frequently tells me I'm too literal, and also tells me that most other people we know think I'm too literal.

However only one person actually tells me, and "people" implies multiple, therefore I'm marking this one down as a "strong disagree".

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  • [–] 27 points 1 day ago (8 children)

    I had a boss one time legitimately and seriously say "stop listening to what I'm saying and listen to what I'm telling you."

    WTF am I supposed to do with that?

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  • [–] 13 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

    read their mind.

    they feel like your inability to understand their horrible communication is a fault entirely in you and has nothing to do with themselves.

    or more accurately, they just want you to emotionally validate them and tell them what they want to hear.

    also, even if they did tell you what to do explicitly, and you do it, they will 100% come back at you 'BUT NOT LIKE THAT'.

    because now it's not about communicating, it's about abusing/confusing you to feel like they have control over you, to see how how much bullshit they can get away with before you tell them to f off.

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  • [–] -2 points 1 day ago (6 children)

    They say that because the listener is so focused on exactly what is said, likely adding non-relevant context or missing context, and dragging out things instead of understanding the message that is being conveyed.

    For example, when I say pick up trash to mean things to throw away and the kiddo focuses on whether she considers something that should be thrown away to be trash she is focused on what I am saying but not what I am telling her. "It isn't trash, I just don't need it." Then just throw it away!

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  • [–] 2 points 1 day ago* (5 children)

    are you serious? you're blaming your kid for your mistakes?

    she's a kid. kids don't know what trash is, tell/teach her what the trash is. stop expecting a child to understand what you mean without giving them instruction.

    reminds me of every shitty coach I had as a kid. 'just hit/catch the ball'. and they get pissed off when you made a mistake, and then basically tell you you just suck and should quit.

    Then the good coaches would... actually teach you how to hit and catch the ball... and then tell you what you did wrong when you made a mistake... and you'd... get better at playing the game... and you'd go from being crappy to being a lot better...

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  • [–] -2 points 1 day ago* (4 children)

    She is 17, not a young child. We have been going over this for over a decade and it really comes down to her refusing to acknowledge things are not always exactly literal. We have gone over this with a therapist for over 5 years as well, because she gets so worked up about it. I have repeatedly shown her what clean means in various examples but she keeps falling back to specific nit picking every time.

    Note thst I am not referring to some kind of spotless perfection. Just not having trash around and things tidy enough to vacuum and dust and other basic cleaning practices.

    Guess I should have given every single detail so you wouldn't assume so much to twist it into some kind of blame game for a child not listening to their parent.

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  • [–] 0 points 3 hours ago* (3 children)

    she's not a child at 17. the fact you think she is might be why she is so incapable of adult functioning.

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  • [–] 0 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago) (2 children)

    She is autistic you judgemental fuck.

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  • [–] 0 points 3 hours ago (1 child)

    cool, guess she can live with you forever then.

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  • [–] 0 points 3 hours ago*

    I called her my kiddo, you used child because you assumed an age. You assume a lot of shit that isn’t accurate and have painted a completely different situation than what I wrote.

    It will take a few more years for her to catch up with everyone else but we are working on it. Lack of success doesn't indicate lack of effort or understanding.

    You are clearly a terrible person.

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  • [–] 23 points 1 day ago (2 children)

    They're actually answering correctly, the question isn't if they're too literal, everyone is literal most of the time, it's finding out if it's to the point that people have to bring it up.

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  • [–] 11 points 1 day ago (2 children)

    People don't tell me I'm too literal, they just hint at it and imply it. Strongly disagree.

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  • [–] 2 points 19 hours ago

    I feel like these test are just designed to tell everyone they’re autistic.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

    the word literal now means figuratively for a large chunk of the population.

    so you're fucked no matter what at this point. pretty hard to take things literally when words literally have contradictory meanings.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 day ago

    People have told me that, but that was only like five people out of hundreds I've talked to. The question is asking generally. I don't think less than one percent of people counts as "in general" so I'm gonna disagree.

    If I'd never heard anyone say that before, I'd strongly disagree, but since I've heard it a few times, I'll just disagree instead.

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  • [–] 0 points 1 day ago*

    If people don't generally tell you that, then the answer to the question is disagree

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