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[–] 30 points 1 day ago (4 children)

I know this is about the AI but the unaddressed elephant in the room is that people romanticize the idea of having children and realizing it's not what they expected or really wanted. Society constantly puts pressure on people having kids.

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  • [–] 17 points 1 day ago (1 child)

    I know people who would die to have children so they can see them become successful well adjusted adults. Those people can have kids.

    I also know people who dont want to have kids. They dont have to.

    I also also know people who really want kids, but in the way a person would want a dog, so they can train it to be good, hit it when its bad, and itll never be older than 3 years because they havent thought that far ahead. These people should be sterilized.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 day ago

    Hah yeah I agree on the last statement. That's why I have such a negative outlook on the subject. Once you fill out CPS reports, you start to have more negative outlooks such as maybe there should be a license to have kids.

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  • [–] 11 points 1 day ago (1 child)

    people romanticize the idea of having children and realizing it's not what they expected

    dude....so much this.

    I had zero romantic thoughts of having kids. I didn't even want them, honestly. my wife and literally everyone around us on the other hand, very much so wanted us to have kids.

    don't judge though. as a current parent I don't ignore my responsibilities and fully intend on giving my kids the best I can. at least, a better more loving home than I had.

    but man, life would be so much easier without them. I literally could be on a beach somewhere in the world right now if I didn't have kids. have lunch in Paris. then stop by in Denmark for some dinner.

    by the time they can stand on their own I'll be dead. so now I can only save money in hopes to help soften any financial hardships they will need to endure.

    I've been playing around with the idea of recording some "dad's wisdom" videos for them when they get older and I'm not around.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 day ago

    The video idea sounds pretty good.

    I went separate ways with my ex-fiancee over this topic. It wasn't so much as I was against having kids, I had conditions such as financial stability and owning a home. And deep down I didn't want to take care of two people and be financially responsible for everything, my ex-fiancee already had a hard time holding down a job.

    But like you said, even now that I have my own place, I'm more motivated to travel than get into that lifestyle. I'm sure I would have been a decent parent having worked in education but the tradeoffs are too steep for me.

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