Pulling out apparently
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Finding the will to get out of bed in the morning. For twenty years I've gone to work 40 or more hours a week and honestly I just can't seem to find a care to do it anymore. I'm sure it's tied to depression or not being happy in my life or some shit but really it just seems easier some days to say why not just end it and not stress about being late on rent or having some awkward conversation telling someone you were sick and you know you shouldnt be missing days but really the work is just not fulfilling so I have no drive to keep doing it.
It's almost creepy, are you me? This is exactly how i would describe the shit i am like for about a year now.
Not quite, I'm the mirrored version you see when you look in the mirror, except I must say the mirror must be fogged because it says lady in your name, so you'd have to be squinting hard. My beard is a bit hard to mistake, lol. Hope you find some sort of spark in your life soon that starts to make things better, I really need to find a new line of work probably.
I get like this if I have a good weekend, trip or vacation. It’s supposedly supposed to make you feel better in life but for me the stress beforehand (if it’s a big trip) and the depression afterward almost make it easier to bury my head in work and not peak too far outside my little bubble.
Most things. People underestimate the labor, time, complexity, obstacles that most jobs involve. We are wildly optimistic.
Snowboarding, even without any tricks or anything fancy. Just cruising down the snow is also very difficult.
Playing the harmonica.
Your mouth cavity forms part of the instrument (like the body of an acoustic guitar) so you need to precisely control your lips, tongue, jaw, etc on top of the usual embouchure skills that you need for a wind instrument, while also being sure to only use the hole/holes you want. You get different notes when you blow and draw (suck), so you must control your breath so the note doesn't squeak - unless you're doing that on purpose, which lets you play notes outside the key of that particular harmonica. You also need to balance your in and out breaths so you don't get too full or empty of air (a few notes have both in and out options to help with this).
I'm very bad at the harmonica.
Digital music production. Making a tune is easy, making it sound good and well balanced is a bitch.
I tried making music once for a game jam where we swapped roles with someone
I've learned to never even think about making music in the foreseeable future lol
Working from home. It sounds like a dream, but it's called a job for a reason.
most things. swimming, jogging, balance, juggling, knitting, whittling, lathing, bathing, dogs, pogs, poker, snooker, cooking, docking, greeting, seating, studying, cuddling, fishing, threshing...
Turning when you're riding on a jetski and about to be in a head on collision.
Most people will panic and let off the gas to turn, but the jet ski isn't going to be able to turn much unless you're actually giving it some throttle.
It varies from person to person.
I can build a house from start to finish and figure it all out easily. I can rebuild a car pretty easy too. Computer hardware and networking stuff is no problem. I started navigating the us with nothing but maps (pre internet access availability for me) at 16 and have driven all over since. I excel in spatial relations from what I'm told.
I don't understand nouns, verbs, adverbs, or anything that goes along with it but can speak and write clearly. Learning languages is a pita. Same goes for programming. Interacting with people outside of certain things in person makes me cringe. Interacting on the phone is worse unless I know someone, I'm currently still using my wife's debit card to access my bank account 7 years after she passed because I have to call the bank to fix mine and I can't stand the thought.
Teaching (elementary school). It's my third career and definitely the hardest of the three.
Teaching in general is way harder than most people think
It's easy to be friendly at work. But turning that "work-friend" relationship into a real friendship, one where you do things outside of work together, is still a mystery to me. I have no idea how people do that. Others make it look so easy. I can't imagine anyone at my job dislikes me, we all compliment each other, laugh at each others' jokes, and hold fun conversations on the clock. Yet when a crowd gets together after work and plans where to go next, I'm baffled. I'm too anxious to invite myself, but nobody ever invites me, so I just try to ignore it so I don't feel hurt. :')
Going to bed before midnight and actually sleeping
Warm white lightbulbs, anti blue coatings on glasses and settings in every device, and occasionally remembering to not drink caffeine past 4pm (even if you're a 'caffeine makes me tired' person it still keeps your brain kicking and out of rem sleep) were the kickers that got me into a good sleep schedule
The second I had a pair of glasses with those night driving amber lenses I genuinely noticed my sleep being better, felt myself actually getting tired and would actually go to bed early.
The doomscrolling in bed didn't help either
For me, making small talk. I don't even try anymore.
How 'bout that weather we're having? Sure is, weathery.
I accidentally did it yesterday. Took the dog for a walk, passed a woman sitting at the park bench near the park eating lunch. She was the instigator though I think, asked if I was local and what was the best thing about living here.
Having a smallish cute dog might be the key, but in this era of everyone staring at their phone it's harder than usual.
Turned out she was waiting for her kids friends to arrive, and they were out harvesting fruit from god knows where.
Just being outside is probably a good enough start. A pet is a handy excuse with added virtue signalling I guess.
Apparently, applying window tint is more difficult than it seems.
I regularly see cars with large bubbles between the tint and the glass. I decided years ago that if I want window tint but can’t afford to have it professionally applied, then I can’t afford tint. Having no tint at all is better than living with poorly applied tint.
Specifying exactly how to make a PB&J sandwich: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cDA3_5982h8
Being happy. Living. Staying alive. Also, networking. I'm pretty good at computers, being able to build computers and compiling my own Linux based OS, but networking is witchcraft on another level. Still love it though
Keeping a car clean and mostly (not fully) scratch-free
You get into it thinking it's a fun hobby and now it's sunday night, you're on the floor crying outside next to your car realizing you need another $100 to do any decent polish job, and that it's fucking impossible without a garage
Flying an fpv quadcopter. Actually the whole hobby. Not talking DJI. Building, programming and inevitably fixing them. Flying them in acro mode is not easy. Come to think of it, line of sight is even harder.
Replacing a bath with a shower on concrete slab. That drain is four inches away from where I want it.
making friends and keeping them (or social skills in general)
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