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[–] DagwoodIII@piefed.social 99 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Someone once said that raising the drinking age to 21 didn't stop 18 year olds from getting booze, but it did stop a lot of 14 year olds from getting booze.

[–] PiraHxCx@lemmy.dbzer0.com 40 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (18 children)

Which is an awful idea, gladly I never had any trouble getting alcohol at 12-14, and yeah, by 22 I had fucked around so much and partied so hard that was already retiring from getting drunk... isn't it better to be irresponsible idiots when you indeed have no responsibilities, and give a good use to all those puberty hormones?

[–] Bonsoir@lemmy.ca 44 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (11 children)

Alcohol can have an impact on the brain's development, which stops at around 32 years old anyway. So it is less harmful (edit : for the brain development) the older you get. Also, the earlier someone starts drinking, the higher their chances are of developing an addiction.

[–] Cassa@lemmy.blahaj.zone 36 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Fun fact! The reason we say brain development stops at 32 is cus the study famous for it stopped at 32 😁

[–] cosmos8188@leminal.space 11 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Yep, the real point where the development stops is not widely known yet. There are even articles which say 37 might be the point, but its definite that its past 32.

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I've always heard mid to late 20s as the point where most of the growth stops. Your brain changes to some extent throughout your entire life, but most performance metrics peak around then and decline after.

[–] BurgerBaron@quokk.au 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Most is all I care about. Our ears never stop growing but that doesn't actually matter much.

[–] PolarKraken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 3 days ago

Sure it does, old people look hilarious!

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[–] UnrepententProcrastinator@lemmy.ca 23 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Why does everyone act like being smart is so great. I'm dumb and I'm okay with it.

So true. I'm smart and it low-key sucks

[–] myrrh@ttrpg.network 6 points 3 days ago

...i played an orc with 7 intelligence; he was great...

[–] theneverfox@pawb.social 11 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Brain development never stops

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[–] Valmond@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Drinking after 32 yo has a negative impact on the brain too lmao.

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Learn to drink before you learn to drive imo

[–] Elting@piefed.social 5 points 3 days ago

I would like to believe all the lessons I learned doing wreckless could have been learned elsehow, but also it tamed me out by the time I was 14. I could tell a lot of the kids around me at that age were acting out as a result of their newfound freedom, the kinda freedom and lack of supervision I had had for ten years at that point. I had my fill already and became a relatively calm and subdued teen. But only because I had learned my lessons through pain.

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[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I really don't know anybody from America who didn't drink before 21. I'm still not a fan of alcohol outside of social events, didn't go to parties often in the first place, and was generally a good little honors student who followed the rules. However, even I drank several times before it was legal.

I didn't, but I was (sincerely) deeply religious at the time :\

[–] KernelTale@programming.dev 7 points 3 days ago (8 children)
[–] ora@midwest.social 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

18 year olds can pass for 21 with a fake ID but a 14 year old definitely couldn't

[–] LodeMike@lemmy.today 7 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

It's more rather preventing seniors at high school buying it for freshmen at high school. Whereas most 21YO+'s friends are adults.

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[–] JimVanDeventer@lemmy.world 9 points 3 days ago

Europeans giving up alcohol at 21

Ja… nein, lol

[–] aldhissla@piefed.world 25 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Hey, more booze for me!

Millenial and trying to forget 🤘

[–] DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 17 points 3 days ago

I too enjoy replacing the fading sins of my past with entirely new and far worse mistakes

[–] HerbGrower@slrpnk.net 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Makes no difference to me as I mostly drink my own homebrew cider and mead.

[–] aldhissla@piefed.world 8 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Ooo, must be nice, Mr I-Make-My-Own-Remedies-At-Home

You need to send me some samples of your superior medicine, you!

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[–] kamen@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago (2 children)

What about just being moderate with it regardless of the age?

[–] Rooster326@programming.dev 5 points 2 days ago

Believe it or not, straight to jail

[–] Geobloke@aussie.zone 4 points 3 days ago

I was incapable of any sort of moderation at 18

[–] bigchungus@piefed.blahaj.zone 18 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Once had a nondescript volume (sips sips sips) of Jack Daniels from a flask before a night out. Getting that drunk just isn't fun, especially when I'm moving about. Had a hangover so bad my cheeks were bruised from the swelling.

I'm sticking to weed instead.

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[–] vantablack@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 3 days ago

underage drinking was my favorite hobby in middle and high school. no regrets

[–] erinmeow@piefed.blahaj.zone 17 points 3 days ago (2 children)

alcohol is worsssttttttttt

[–] Lucidlethargy@sh.itjust.works 9 points 3 days ago

Alcohol let's us live a little while we shave years off our lives.

It's bad, but it's also kind of an understandable reaction to what's going on in the world today. The environment is being destroyed, the planet is becoming more and more uninhabitable for humans (because of the greed of human companies and countries). And the worst human behavior imaginable is being lauded as not just permissable, but recommended.

A lot of us won't accept that... So we just live in this mess hating it all.

People shouldn't drink excessively, but I get it.

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[–] crakila@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

Sure, we all say that "We'll never drink again" within our 20s and then proceed to drink again either the next night or the next week. Vicious circle.

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