Gender-neutral-"dude" is like peanuts

Usually fine, but some people are more sensitive to it, to the point where it could seriously hurt them. Best avoided around new people until you know it's safe for them.

Loosely related, but I never understood the "they want us to change our vocabulary" thing conservatives complain about.

I used to use gender neutral "man" in phrases "my man" and "look at the man go." It did make one trans girl get mad at me like 3 years ago tho so I just started using new terms right after.

It wasn't that hard or anything either. You can build new habits in weeks if you want to, turns out. Was just a simple "oh I will not say that from now."
That was it.

(P.s. Love this rule pun)

if someone needs to refer to me in a gender neutral way they can always use "your majesty", "comrade", "accomplice", "shoddy imitation of a human", among many more :3

I really wish there was a word that was as useful as "dude" but without the gender connotation.

I tried swapping to "fam" and "cuz" but those felt appropriated, I tried "gamer" and "chat" but those felt irony-poisoned, "Sis" and "girl" feel performative. So "dude" it shall be until someone tells me it's bad, and then they get no objective article at all.

I used to work with some proper manly-men; ex military, oil rig workers, lumber jacks etc. You get the picture.

The amount of times people get called “babe” and “sweet cheeks” etc. was dizzying - as was the constant vague alluding to the wanting of doing horrifically outlandish sexual stuff to each other.

Weird, but fun, vibe all around.

I subscribe to the good burger use of dude.

This discussion always centers around whether or not these are gender neutral terms in general. It always leaves out the fact that there are people who only use these terms for men and trans women.

The stoner who uses "dude" or "man" all the time, the leabian, I see them use it for cis women constantly, we have no problems. The bro bro who absolutely does not call cis women "dude" or "man", can fuck all they way off to the 7th jockstrap of hell.

The one that gets me is 'bud' I had a roommate that would all ways say things like 'yeah bud. that's because ****' when explaining anything and I had to put a firm stop to it. It was so patronizing.

I really wish inheritantly masculine words weren't always ending up the "gender neutral" defaults.

I can't help but feel like ever since being out over the last 2 years, friends are calling me "man" or "dude" in a neutral sense way more often than they ever did before despite them being supportive and it just feels too me like petting a cat in the wrong direction. I know I need to be more vocal in it making me uncomfortable but I've always tried to avoid confrontation so it's hard

If you're me, you can say, "sup, y'all"

For more context, this works when greeting one person or a group. If you need to specify that you're addressing the group, the plural of "y'all" is "all y'all".

In Spanish we just say "you". It's really terrible in Arabic where you have feminine and masculine "you".

If you call a trans woman any of these things you are morally and legally obligated to give her $20 each time.

I have officially lost complete connection with what the kids are talking about these days