Being jealous of other people's wooden floors
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Finding joy in having a clean kitchen
How does that means that you're an adult? You arrange furniture based on a lot of factors.
Being around kids and being seen just like I remember seeing adults when I was little. Assumed authority and decision making power and the answer to every problem or wish.
When throwing away a perfectly good box is a well thought out decision after the box has been in a staging area for some time while you think about it.
Owning a proper lawn-momer like the one my dad had. A proper petrol, cylinder mower like this one:
I bought a refurbished on from eBay. Sadly my lawn is too shitty and bumpy to use it, so I just use a Honda IZY which does a perfectly good job but it's not like the one my dad had.
Lawns. One of the most wasteful things in modern society.
Being able to just go and buy coconut bread without having to ask my parents and them telling me: "Only if you put it on your bread"
The wiry black hair that grows halfway up the length of my penis for some reason
Eating a meal that is mostly vegetables.
Buying and cooking your own food. Reading the nutritional info on labels.
You get excited about a pillow
Or new socks
A new pair of exactly the same New Balance
Ah, and if it's spring, you get to rotate the old pair out to be 'new' yard work shoes!
When your empathy extends to people you don't even like.
"They are angry because they are suffering."
The #1 sign of adulting has to be paying for your own stuff.
Mine was paying for an airbrush, and i was in my 40's by this point, but the realisation i could buy a completely superflous, but expensive, thing for myself was a bit if a wow. But yeah house bills also lol
One big sign is when you stop demanding to be treated like an adult and just start being one.
Being an adult is just a decision you make one day.
Years ago my older brother was on the phone complaining to me because our mom found out he bought a motorcycle and was mad at him and my dad (who helped him pick it out).
He wanted to know why my mom thought she could treat him like a child.
I pointed out that when he decided to get a motorcycle and kept it secret from our mom, he was acting like a child and enabling her to treat him like one.
I have no interest in ever owning a motorcycle. However, if I ever did, it would never occur to me to keep it secret from anybody, because I'm an adult in charge of my own life. Everyone else can have opinions, but I get to decide whose opinions matter to me.
Celebrities (especially politicians) younger than me existing.
Ahhh, see mine is but even being aware of who counts as celebrities these days
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You wash all your dinner dishes before you go to bed.
Waking up at 7 on a Saturday for no fucking reason
I wake up at 5:30 on Saturday because it's the best time to be awake
When you stop caring if something is a childish thing or not. Some people never get there.
You empty the dishwasher immediately, as it is the only time during the day you have the time to do it.
You wash your sheets, because of the calendar notification popping up.
you vacuum the flat on saturday at 8 AM, as that is the time to vacuum the flat in your planner.
The most exciting thing in my life right now is the spreadsheet I just made to track chores.
My budgeting spreadsheet is a delight
Getting a new kitchen appliance is exciting. I was so amazed when I first got an air fryer. Also, getting socks as a gift is pretty good.
Problem with the socks is that I also just enjoy getting myself socks, so now I own an absurd amount of socks
Bombas are a party on my feet
Taking responsibility for your own actions.
Not just mistakes, but being proactive about positive things without needing to be prompted.
I'd point out that taking responsibility for your actions doesn't necessarily mean fixing them on your own.
It's often more difficult (and more adult) to acknowledge that you've dug a hole for yourself that you can't escape from on your own and ask for help.
Saying this as the parent of young adult children that are adulting well, but still need to ask for help. Also as the old adult child of my parents who must still force himself to ask them for help.
A bit of both for me. Whenever I dropped a bollock in work or whereever, my head used to go down and I'd be waiting for the hairdryer treatment like I was waiting outside the headmaster's office.
Now, if some cockwomble decides to mass-email someone with a passive aggressive email about "could the person who..." and it's quite clearly my mistake, I take great pleasure in absolutely owning it, smashing that reply-all button, and explaining in painful detail how yes it was my fuck up; yes I did do it with good intentions but hey things go sideways sometimes; and yes abso-fucking-lutely thank you for your shitty email that has had all the effect of a silent fart.
I think the best part of adulting is that you can make no mistakes and still lose (yeah Picard boiiii), and realising that nobody's going to care about it in a week's time.
basically means you can watch adult movies and commit this thing called adultery. ezpz.
kidding aside, i think a good sign for me is following through with my decisions, and, if i decided not to, acknowledge my mistake and learn from it.
I posted a gif of Ray Liotta laughing in Goodfellas a few days ago. Someone replied telling me the gif was perfect, and asking what was it from?
Oh shit, I think that was me on my feddit account.
I'm 40 years young, I was just never into Mafia films. Still never seen Scarface.
Skip Scarface, I'll give you a quick synopsis. Robert De Niro sells cocaine, business is booming, life is great, he's the best and smartest criminal in history, what a good life! I guess on top of selling all the coke he should also be doing all the coke, wow, this is even better than before! He's a genius! Oh shit, the feds found out about his operation, no problem he's a badass, he'll just take em' all it with his AK! Oh, wow that plan did not go well at all... The end.
Now watch Goodfellas instead. And try to figure out if any of the characters (including the narrator) are "good guys".
For me it was the moment I bought my first lawnmower.
Sounds mundane but a few days ago, for the first time I bought myself a jacket. I am 28. My grandma loves to gift clothes for christmas especially stuff like jackets, so I didn't really need to buy one until now. On the way back from the shop I felt weirdly adult. I bought most of my other clothes myself for around 10 years, but never a jacket
When you see your parents as people and stop blaming them for everything.
Also when you realise that not only do they not know everything, they actually know close to nothing.
When I got a well-paying job, earning me about 10 times as much as I did while working as a teaching assistant at uni. I realized I could afford more than renting a student apartment and cheap food. Buying furniture, an apartment, having kids, tech toys. A car.
Makes me feel independent and in control of my life, I guess.
You start to wonder, “when am I going to feel like an adult?”
Starting to remember the good reasons why you DIDN'T like something in the past and trusting your past judgment.
Coming around and disagreeing with your younger self hits pretty hard
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Not as important as what has already been said but actually making a call when you really need something done. You'd be impressed how much more quickly your problems can get fixed when you talk to a human being.
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