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[–] 86 points 9 months ago (29 children)

Are dads still like that? The young dads I know are pretty involved in their children's lives

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  • [–] 60 points 9 months ago (1 child)

    My wife went out Christmas shopping while I took my toddler to go play in the snow.

    Separating responsibilities is functional, I don't understand the negatives here.

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  • [–] 13 points 9 months ago

    I think its more referencing the dads who are entirely uninvolved untrained the their kids lives whatsoever to the point they don't even participate in any Christmas planning or prep for the family.

    Not your specific situation.

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  • [–] 20 points 9 months ago (6 children)

    All dads I know including myself are the opposite. They do all the shopping and wrapping.

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  • [–] 37 points 9 months ago (2 children)

    Yep, dad here, can confirm and get tired of these tired old jokes. Such a boomer joke

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  • [–] 6 points 9 months ago (1 child)

    My wife did basically all the shopping and wrapping.

    But i drove across the state christmas eve to pick up the kitten and hid it for hours. And built all the things that needed to be assembled. I was up til about one while she was in bed by 9. Then the stuff that wasnt from santa was built today.

    Each parent doesnt need to be involved in everything to still be involved.

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  • [–] 4 points 9 months ago

    My wife did the shopping for some of the bigger ticket stuff, I did the stocking stuff (which included some fun toys), I did most of the wrapping but it probably would've been more even split if she didn't have a chronic disease sapping her energy.

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  • [–] 18 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

    I feel like people assume parenting is everyone doing everything.

    As a dad, I cook and clean. I wash dishes. I organize.

    My wife wash clothes, fixes things around the house, and shops for goods.

    So yeah, she buys all the presents, because she loves doing it. I'm making Christmas breakfast and dinner, because that's my thing. We can do both.

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  • [–] 14 points 9 months ago

    I did basically all the gift shopping this year and set up all the Santa stuff with the help of one of my older kids as my wife was knackered yesterday.

    Other years my wife has done the bulk of the shopping and we usually do the setup together. There's no structure to who does the shopping I suppose, it's more whoever has the time or energy any given year.

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  • [+] 11 points 9 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (3 children)
  • [–] 14 points 9 months ago (2 children)

    Makes sense that he's your ex

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    [–] 52 points 9 months ago (6 children)

    Wow, lot of shitting on this guy... You know it just works for some families. Doesn't make dad a deadbeat if he's doing other stuff.

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  • [–] 15 points 9 months ago (1 child)

    No offense taken, as a dad.

    My wife LOVES shopping for the kids and finding deals. I love helping the kids figure out what they want, and translating it to my wife.

    It's a partnership.

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  • [–] 6 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

    My wife is unemployed and loves doing gift stuff including wrapping. Even constantly asking if I want them to wrap their gifts for themself lol. I think some folks just see this without having loved it and assume it's bad. The reality is couples split their chores. My wife doesn't help me with yard work, even while unemployed, does it make them a deadbeat? No. That's just not how we split the chores.

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  • [–] 12 points 9 months ago

    Dad worked. One day in the lean years he was on the books for 5 employers at the same time: no overlapping shifts, just a hairy schedule on a paper calendar and more than one job-to-job commute.

    We do not castigate dad for devoting his entire life to the household.

    Mom, who merely had one full-timer, did the shopping and wrapping on the side. The two of them set up a wonderful Christmas day together with very few gifts and resources, and we were all together on Christmas morn before Dad went to work.

    It worked. We didn't lack for joy.

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    [–] 52 points 9 months ago (3 children)

    Plot twist, Dad believes in Santa to this day because he knows he didn't buy the presents.

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    [–] 38 points 9 months ago

    In my defense, while my wife shopped and wrapped I was on toddler wrangling duty XD

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  • [–] 20 points 9 months ago

    My dad earned the money, my mom spent it. That worked for them, there were no complaints.

    OTH, they were born during the Great Depression, and were both very frugal. Neither of them liked to spend money. As the fourth of four kids, most of my clothes and toys were hand-me-downs, and my mom made my clothes until I hit puberty, as well as making most of her own clothes her whole life. I don't have any complaints either. Both of my parents loved their kids unconditionally, I grew up in a warm, and mostly happy family.

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  • [–] 18 points 9 months ago (2 children)

    I buy throughout the year whenever I see something I know they will like. By Christmas, I forget what I've bought and wrapped.

    This year, I asked my girlfriend if she will want something and tell her I'll hold onto it until Christmas. Buy it with her, and then by the time she gets it, she's forgotten. I did that with a bracelet that said "Mom" on it during the summer, that I would put her daughters name as the from so that she gets something from her daughter. I always try to buy something to be "from" her daughter. It is really nice for her daughter too, to have that experience "giving" something on Christmas too.

    I sat with her daughter the other night making bracelets for her to give out at our family Christmas party and the first one we made was for her to give to her biological Dad when she goes with him in a few days.

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  • [–] 17 points 9 months ago

    I'd like to virtual cheers all of the men out there who bought thoughtful gifts and made someone happy this season. Merry Christmas!

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  • [–] 15 points 9 months ago

    ALERT: THIS IS SANTA DENIER CONSPIRACY PROPAGANDA!! SANTA CLAUS PUT THE PRESENTS THERE, NOT THE MOTHER

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  • [–] 14 points 9 months ago (4 children)

    That was me this year. I had no idea my wife had been buying so much stuff.

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    [+] 13 points 9 months ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)
  • [–] 9 points 9 months ago

    Uhh I'm the one that fills the stockings so I get to act surprised by the shit I put in there 3 hours prior. Would be neat if someone else ever put something in mine, but not happened yet.

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  • [–] 8 points 9 months ago

    I bought and wrapped presents that I'd forgotten what they were. Christmas was a wild one this year for me.

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  • [–] 5 points 9 months ago (1 child)

    He knows how much it cost though

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