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If you're looking for a way to stop this behavior, you grab them by the scruff of their neck. Don't worry, it doesn't actually hurt the cat. But it does trigger senses in them that they're being disciplined. So you grab the scuff of their neck, and act like your wrist is hurt. (the one they were biting/clawing, not the one you're using to grab the scruff of their neck).
Once they realize they're hurting you, and also realize you can grab them by the scruff of their neck, and are therefore more powerful than them, they'll stop doing that.
Of coarse, this is also assuming you're being a good cat parent to begin with. I see so many videos online titled "Cats go crazy" or something similiar. They aren't going crazy. Their humans are usually doing some shit to repeatedly piss off their cat. And eventually the cat says "FUCK THIS!!!" and lashes out.
As long as the cat routinely feels safe, and loved with you, the scruff thing works. If your cat feels unwelcome in it's own home, yes, it will lash out.
If the cat does that, it's because it doesn't actually understand that it's hurting you.
Start making a big "YELP" and clearly show that you are in pain when it does it, and it will gradually start to be more gentle.
It doesn't understand that you don't have fur that protects it the way it does.
Can confirm this works, unless he gets too excited my cat is very careful about keeping his claws retracted. To the point that one time he actually slapped the absolute fuck out of my leg, that actually made a slap sound and stung a tiny bit from his pawpads slapping me, without leaving a claw mark. Chaotic little beast.
I did this so often with puppies and kittens over the years that I had to unlearn it when dealing with women, lol. Believe it or not if a woman bites you yelping isn't the response they are looking for. Well results may vary I suppose...
this needs to be the top comment!!! this is the right answer!!!!
a squeak/high pitched noise - it sounds like another cat/kitten shrieking in pain. that's usually enough to get the message through!
This is how I taught my cat.
He still tries to use his claws like tiny fingers sometimes, but he really doesn't mean it.
Fuk all this good advice. Rock on w your kitty. Looks like fun.
It is fun and i really dont care about the scratches.
One of my cats grabs my hand or my arm to the point where she could tear me apart and then starts licking my hand instead. She is realy cute.
She also is super careful with her claws when playing with me. Just enough to pin my arm.
You need to get help. Despite what you may think you deserve a loving relationship with someone who doesn't hurt you.
This is a product of both participants and a behavior that can be changed pver time.
This stopped real quick with my cat. Anytime he would try to bite me, I would just shove my finger down his throat. Don't worry it didn't hurt him but it did trigger his gag reflex lol now at most he will lightly bite if he doesn't like something. He doesn't use his claws on me as well.
You don't have to gag them. Just press your finger sideways into their back teeth so they can't close the bite. They'll immediately try and push out your finger with their tongue. It stops being a game for them real quick.
But this is also a last resort. They're are better techniques as discussed in other comments. The earlier the intervention the easier they learn.
In my area it's become lore that cats only biting becuase they didn't grow up with other kittens to give them social feedback for bites. The the point where the shelters will insist kittens be adopted in pairs.
It seems like an insanely lazy approach to me. Like getting two dogs so they'll play without other and leave you alone.
Interesting. These were older adopted cats; okay well my sister left them with me when she had kids. It was a fun transition for them. The one that took me as his master or whatever; hissed at me the first day so I raised my arms up and hissed right back at him. That was then end of that and he follows me around like a dog. It's always funny when he comes to comfort me when I get pissed off in a comp game.
I think I only had to do the gag thing like three times, he's a fast learner.
The pairs thing is actually important in my opinion, they like to play with each other once in a while or run around like idiots crashing into stuff (tile floors). My mum also tells me how he loses his shit when I go to work. I went overseas for a few weeks and when I got back he wouldn't leave my side for at least a week and I mean following me everywhere. I love cats, had em all my life.
My rescue cat (2 years in October) does this with my wife. The exception being, once the cat ‘catches’ her, it’s a half second of confusion then lots of licking.
Someone pointed out how me saying it was my fault my cat scratched and hurt me sounded like a textbook abusive relationship. Is there a way to unlearn things?
At least snip their nails ;-;
I would often wrap an old sweater around my hand to do this with my old cat. When he was really into it I could pick him while he was still attached to my sweater hand.
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