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Showerthoughts

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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.

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[–] undeffeined@lemmy.ml 12 points 2 days ago (1 children)

A game changer for me was separate cover blankets.

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[–] Bubbaonthebeach@lemmy.ca 16 points 2 days ago (3 children)

It took me a few years to convince my partner that sleeping separately would be a good idea. He snores and I am a very light sleeper. It has improved our relationship to sleep apart. Since I talk to my friends about it, I know that many of them also sleep apart and credit it for being able to stay happily married instead of being sleep deprived and always mad at their partner. On vacation, we often go back to sharing a bed.

[–] IWW4@lemmy.zip 5 points 2 days ago

I agree. My wife and I fought against separate beds for a long time, but some things went down that required us to have alternate sleep schedules so that forced us to do it.

That was 12 years ago and we have had separate bedrooms ever since.

We have since learned that pretty much all of our friends who have been married for significant number of years sleep in separate beds. Sleeping is such an important part of living and a huge impact on QoL. So once you accept that quality sleep is a basic need and not a referendum on the state of the marriage it just solves a set of problems.

[–] LemmyRefugee@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

Using a Device of Mandibular Advancement I have been able to stop snoring completely and I don’t need CPAP anymore.
It is done by dentists.

[–] 6stringringer@lemmy.zip 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I think that we as couple, we feel somewhat the same. Split bedrooms never hurt us. Try’na pretend that we don’t do weird stuff in our sleep is absolutely crazy talk. The bizarre behavior we do in our sleep is downright weird & funny. There should absolutely be no shame in sleeping separately for a solid nights rest. Any halfway intelligent couple is aware of this. Or at least will soon be turned on to this insane idea. .

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 5 points 2 days ago

I sleep better snuggled up against someone.

[–] Spacehooks@reddthat.com 5 points 2 days ago

I uses to suffer from night terrors regularly that mostly went away when I started sleeping with SO. Thay being said we do sleep better in a long size bed then in the standard twin we have at home. So maybe the issue is space.

[–] Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 17 points 3 days ago (4 children)

I struggle to sleep without my husband. I need my feet to touch his, at least. We share a queen bed, even use the same blanket (it is a King blanket though). Im really surprised so many folks don't sleep in the same bed at their partner here. Nothing wrong with it, I'm just surprised.

Maybe things will change when we are older, but I couldn't imagine.

[–] socsa@piefed.social 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

I am kind of incredulous that anyone actually sleeps better with a whole separate person in the bed. It gets too hot and you both wake up whenever the other one uses the bathroom, or if you don't go to bed at the same time, or if you don't get up at the same time. Just from those basic mechanics it seems to defy logic that actual sleep quality, beyond some intangible aesthetic, wouldn't be negatively impacted.

[–] ChexMax@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

I have terrible insomnia, I have misophonia, and I am a light sleeper. My partner talks in his sleep, he's a furnace, and a loud breather, but I'll tell you, nothing conks me out like turning over and being the big spoon on that guy. When he's out of town it's harder (or at least less comfortable) to fall asleep. Sometimes when I really really can't sleep for hours, I'll reach over and just hold his limp sleeping hand and it helps.

He can fall asleep anywhere and sleep through anything though. If we were both poor sleepers, idk what we'd do.

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[–] Pulptastic@midwest.social 3 points 2 days ago

We do the same, she’ll have a foot touching my ankle and I’ll have a hand touching her hip. Sometimes her toenails are stabby and I roll away but she seeks me out in her sleep lol.

Occasionally I’ll sleep on the couch if I have a sinus headache as it is more upright to promote drainage, but vast majority of time we sleep together.

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[–] ConstantPain@lemmy.world 12 points 2 days ago (5 children)

I sleep much better accompanied. I'm single at the moment and it's been dreary.

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[–] hperrin@lemmy.ca 53 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I sleep better when I’m next to my wife.

[–] Alfredolin@sopuli.xyz 43 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I also sleep better when I'm next to your wife

... Sorry, my pre-Lemmy internet use has corrupted me.

[–] tacosanonymous@mander.xyz 24 points 3 days ago (1 children)

“I also choose this guys’ wife.”

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[–] Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 2 days ago

Yah, my partner and I sleep in the same bed and under the same blankets and I sleep best when either I’m snuggling them or they’re snuggling me.

[–] RebekahWSD@lemmy.world 64 points 3 days ago (9 children)

Me and husband each have our own blankets and sheets and such on the one king bed. Cause he's a furnace and I'd explode if I got that hot. It's much nicer.

[–] frank@sopuli.xyz 10 points 3 days ago

Scandinavian sleeping, it's the best!

[–] ameancow@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I love that one person downvoted you for this comment. I think the internet was a bad idea.

[–] RebekahWSD@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

I try not to pay attention to the vote count, and just let my comments uhhh do their thing which is 'rambling' probably!

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[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 3 days ago (1 children)

My ideal living situation with a partner would be:

Two entirely separate living areas with individual bedrooms, plus a third area for both of us that also has a bed.

So in other words, I'll probably be single forever.

[–] Lumisal@lemmy.world 6 points 3 days ago

I mean, that's how it's like with my third partner, so I think you'll be okay.

(Note: we are poly, not cheating with HR)

[–] aesthelete@lemmy.world 12 points 3 days ago

Works great if you have extra rooms around your house for each person. Must be freaking nice.

[–] Acamon@lemmy.world 47 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Married and swear by seperate beds. It's amazing if you've got the space. But it is good to make sure you get plenty of "lying about in bed together" time. But it's great to be able to go off to your own bed after for a peaceful, undisturbed sleep. And being able to read a night or get dressed in the morning without worrying about disturbing your partner.

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[–] masterspace@lemmy.ca 29 points 3 days ago (2 children)

We all sleep alone soundly

XD XD XD

Oh my sweet summer child...

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[–] ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.works 37 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I've dated one person who could not bear to be touched at all in her sleep (but she insisted on sharing the same bed, which made things awkward for me) and another person who snored, but I think that humans probably generally sleep better together. It isn't a sexual thing - look at non-human animals and how they often sleep cuddled up together. As a kid, I shared a bed with my grandfather (we lived in a small apartment) and I would fall asleep hugging him, and as an adult I slept better when I could cuddle up with my dog.

[–] AmidFuror@fedia.io 45 points 3 days ago (1 children)

And how is the chocolate factory business?

[–] bobs_monkey@lemmy.zip 33 points 3 days ago

Come with me
And you will see
A world of OSHA violations

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 8 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I sleep so much better with my wife. Unless I snore, then I get kicked awake all night

[–] cactusupyourbutt@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I also sleep so much better with your wife

[–] mojofrododojo@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

you're the one kicking him, aren't you?

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

Oh shit, Jen? /s

[–] jqubed@lemmy.world 31 points 3 days ago (9 children)

I guess I’m in the minority that I have a harder time sleeping without my spouse than with. I realized about six months in that I’d rapidly developed some sort of dependence where I would fall asleep quickly if I spooned her. She had surgery in January and spent several weeks in the guest room so she could avoid the stairs, so we’ve tried being apart. It is nice if you have the space/budget for a king bed, though, to spread out from each other some.

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[–] SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 9 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I sleep better with my wife in the bed :3

[–] sdfric88@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 2 days ago

I sleep better with your wife in my bed too!

[–] Admetus@sopuli.xyz 11 points 3 days ago

I also need to sleep alone. Everyone is different. My wife stirs so much that it's better to sleep in separate beds and have ehmmm surprise night visits.

[–] Ioughttamow@fedia.io 18 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Unless you have sleep apnea, the key then is to get a sleep study, and get a cpap. It changed so much for my wife

[–] IWW4@lemmy.zip 12 points 3 days ago (6 children)

I too will testify to the power of the CPAP!

I was diagnosed with Sleep Apena and refused to use it.

I am not putting that stupid thing on my face at night.

Well when the MVA told me that if I didn’t show logs of usage I would loose my divers license i started.

It took one night to convince me it was the greatest thing ever, and I felt so stupid for not using it sooner.

My wife actually thought something was wrong because I was so “quiet” when I slept.

Sleep Apena is no bullshit and it is amazing how much it was dragging me down.

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[–] Stalinwolf@lemmy.ca 18 points 3 days ago

Nah. My wife snores like hell, but I can't fall asleep when she isn't there.

[–] eupraxia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 2 days ago

Everyone's gonna have different needs, but I've benefited a lot from having the option to sleep separately. Having a second bed set up means it can happen whenever we need, or accommodate if more people need to stay over.

Sometimes I'll need to stretch out in a weird way or I'll get muscle spasms that would keep us both up, so it's a no brainer to sleep separately. Sometimes mentally I need the space too, but otherwise I really do like falling asleep with someone. So it's like a 50/50 if it will work for me on any given night. My nesting partner tends to fall asleep a lot faster so usually I'll cuddle her to sleep and then get back up, bumble around a little bit then go sleep in my bed. It works out great for the both of us!

[–] ThePantser@sh.itjust.works 18 points 3 days ago (1 children)

My wife and I have separate sheets and blankets, it's almost like our own beds. It's some good sleep.

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[–] Flamekebab@piefed.social 15 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I sleep much better when my wife is nearby. We have a super king though so she isn't exactly smushed against me, she's just nearby.

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