IndiBrony

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[โ€“] IndiBrony@lemmy.world 3 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

We've both been working on ourselves emotionally for a long time, so we spend a lot of time and energy trying to explore why we feel certain ways about different things, and then working together to try and help each other get to where we want to be.

I obviously have behaviours which I don't like about myself which I'm working on, and she also has behaviours which she's trying to work on. This is one of those areas where we're trying to figure out together "how much apologising is too much?" as a general curiosity, rather than it being an actual problem.

Neither of us feel like we apologise enough, but I don't get called out on how much I apologise, but she does. A lot of our friends and family often tell her she doesn't need to apologise, or that she apologises too much! ๐Ÿ˜‚

I understand why I don't want her to do it, and it's for many of the reasons you stated: perfectionism, people-pleasing, high social standards, fear of disappointment, etc. all of which can lead to her feeling sad, anxious, and over thinking every tiny detail which obviously isn't good for mental health.

But to try and figure out how I physically and emotionally feel when I hear her say "sorry" is tricky. Do I get frustrated? Do I feel pity? Am I annoyed? Am I annoyed at her? (Obviously I'm not, but she often assumes I am)

I guess we're just finding it interesting to work through that childish curiosity of answering the question "...but why?" from a perspective which isn't as often looked through.

And thank you for the response! โค๏ธ

 

So my girlfriend apologises compulsively. I find it easy to talk to her about the reasons why she may do that; however, she posed to me a question today which I found a little more tricky to answer:

How do I feel when I tell her to stop apologising, and why do I feel the need to tell her to stop apologising?

It's honestly something I never gave thought to before. It is a very, very minor annoyance - to the point where I feel calling it an 'annoyance' is too harsh - but I don't actually know why I feel the need to tell her stop doing it all the time.

I'm hoping someone can help me put it into words. So I ask you, Lemmy: how does it feel when someone apologises too much, and why do you feel the need to tell them to stop apologising?

[โ€“] IndiBrony@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If I recall, the earth is 4.5 billion years old?

So if that planet was traveling at about 1/billionth the speed of light, it could be nearly 47 light years away now.

I think that's roughly 1000km/h which sounds perfectly achievable considering we orbit the sun at 67,000km/h.

[โ€“] IndiBrony@lemmy.world 17 points 2 days ago (3 children)

life feel 3 new ๐Ÿ‘

[โ€“] IndiBrony@lemmy.world 15 points 3 days ago (1 children)

No, you remove them. That's why it's unarmed.

[โ€“] IndiBrony@lemmy.world 52 points 3 days ago (7 children)

You have to check her manual...

[โ€“] IndiBrony@lemmy.world 9 points 3 days ago

Let me do it for you

[โ€“] IndiBrony@lemmy.world 27 points 3 days ago (2 children)

It's more true than you think. Sexual diseases are absolutely rampant in care homes and it's easy to see why: "So what if I get an STI? What's it going to do, kill me? Hah!"

[โ€“] IndiBrony@lemmy.world 19 points 3 days ago

Tanks are pack hunters, after all.

[โ€“] IndiBrony@lemmy.world 4 points 4 days ago

Pro Evo 2 is best Pro Evo.

๐Ÿ‘ We ๐Ÿ‘ will ๐Ÿ‘ we ๐Ÿ‘ will ๐Ÿ‘ Rock you! ๐Ÿ‘

[โ€“] IndiBrony@lemmy.world 46 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (18 children)

Summer time. Every time. I'd rather it not be pitch black at 4pm where I am. I'd rather take the extra bit of darkness in the morning.

I also love it being 9pm in June and still having near full daylight โค๏ธ

[โ€“] IndiBrony@lemmy.world 16 points 5 days ago

Turkish authorities be like: "Prepare for trouble!"

 
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