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[–] 37 points 6 days ago (2 children)

This highlights a big flaw in the golden rule: people want different things

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  • [–] 2 points 6 days ago

    There are a lot of commonalities regarding what humans generally want for the non-specific ethics of reciprocity to be useful.

    Even more so, what humans don't want.

    Or, for that matter, what non-human entities want. Thanks to the collapse of the rule of law at the federal level, businesses who can't afford access to Trump are abandoning the US if they can't pay the expected tribute to Trump, or can't get in his good graces on ideological grounds. It turns out companies like an economy in which the rules are consistent for everyone.

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  • [–] 19 points 6 days ago* (2 children)

    When I was in the kink community breath control was a big no-no. There's a significant enough risk of putting your partner in shock, and in the 1990s police were not very understanding of death by heavy erotic play.

    Of course the US may currently be in the stage Russia was in 2011 (and still is) of YOLO high-risk selfies.

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  • [–] [S] 6 points 6 days ago

    Most people that I've met as well as myself and my partners don't actually do breath play of any variety. Just firm pressure applied to the sides of the neck, to reduce risk slightly. I understand it's still not a completely safe activity, but we're all consenting adults.

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  • [–] 15 points 6 days ago (2 children)

    If the British government browsed Lemmy, they’d be very upset right now.

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    [–] 4 points 6 days ago (1 child)

    So uh... For future partners' sake... What source do I redirect them to to make sure I don't suffer more brain damage than I'm sure I already have from other things... 👀

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  • [+] 1 point 6 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)
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  • [–] 165 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (55 children)

    Fun fact: choking during sex is the second most common cause of stroke in women under 40. Source.

    When you cut off blood supply to the brain you start damaging it real fast. There are studies measuring blood biomarkers of neural injury and inflammation in women who report being chocked during sex and it's clear that choking causes brain damage. According do experts there's no safe way to do it. It's just another disturbing, violent trend popularized by porn.

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  • [–] 2 points 5 days ago

    Blaming sexual violence on porn seems the same kind of cheap virtue-signalling as blaming gun violence on video games.

    Being choked feels good. Your partner sometimes asks you to choke them, sometimes in the heat of the action.

    The most important thing is that there really is no safe way to do it, and it should be never done. Upvoted your post for visibility. For the sceptics, here is an article (in German) about one medical doctor accidentally killing another during sex.

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  • [–] 1 point 4 days ago

    According do experts there’s no safe way to do it.

    I always heard that you/your partner should squeeze the sides of the neck so that it gives the sensation of being choked without actually blocking air/bloodflow

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  • [–] 4 points 6 days ago (5 children)

    Reminder that any sexual choking is now illegal in Australia

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  • [–] 2 points 6 days ago (4 children)

    I can’t find a source that verifies your claim.

    You might be thinking of the ban on strangulation in porn that was passed in the UK recently?

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  • [–] 3 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (2 children)

    Though not broadly different from other State and Territory laws the legal firms advice that is linked in the article relates to NSW law and does not indicate that all sexual strangulation is unlawful.

    Your claim, and the articles claim, regarding the legality of sexual strangulation is untrue on the grounds that sexual strangulation may be performed in a way that is consensual, does not result in harm, loss of consciousness or death.

    It is not explicitly illegal according to Federal, State or Territory law.

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  • [–] 2 points 5 days ago* (1 child)

    Here's another one:

    While the sexual practice was often consensual, Douglas said: “You can’t consent to death or really serious harm under Australian law … there’s that line that is very clearly drawn in strangulation law – and assault law more generally.”

    Theoretically, if the stranglee never gets injured, and they don't tell anyone, then you might not get in trouble. However, since it has such a high injury rate, if they end up in hospital, you might face criminal charges. Even if they have a therapist and say that they are choked during sex, then it's a mandatory reporting thing at that level too. Just don't choke people lol it's extremely dangerous and legally risky

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  • [–] 2 points 5 days ago

    Just don't choke people lol it's extremely dangerous and legally risky

    Advocating for abstinence is a losing strategy as noted in the article.

    I’m not interested in sexual choking, though I do choke people out occasionally in martial arts training, I was interested only in the claim regarding legality.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 days ago (2 children)

    JFC, what kind of porn are you people watching?

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    [–] 50 points 1 week ago (1 child)

    Thought this was a Miisha post

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