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[–] 248 points 1 year ago* (6 children)

Oh great another centralized repository of data about people (uploaded without their knowledge or consent in the case of the men) that definitely won't be abused by bad actors

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  • [–] 213 points 1 year ago (5 children)
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  • [–] 147 points 1 year ago (13 children)

    Huh...

    Part of these types of things generally seem like a well-intentioned idea, but it's also so creepy, scammy, and gross. This data won't stop here by any means, and will be sold or used in a million different even shittier ways. Pretty fucked.

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    Don't these companies know how to properly configure a database? This seemed like it was completely preventable.

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  • [–] 15 points 1 year ago

    yeah, well-intentioned things tend to go sour when exposed to the glow of anonymity on the internet. Starts off innocent, and goes downhill fast.

    The creator, Sean, stating that he started this app as a reaction to the online dating scene his mother experienced, seems fine: an anti-catfishing app would be great.

    To give the devil their due, the data they collect might also be valuable as data on how women discuss men online, which at a cursory glance seems to favor far more hyperbole than I see in everyday life.

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    [–] 118 points 1 year ago (5 children)

    Someone saw that Black Mirror episode and said “Let’s make that for real.”

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    [–] 79 points 1 year ago (8 children)

    “He’s a cheater,” Walker said, reading some of the comments on one post out loud.

    "What clubs does he go to?" another person asked on a different post. "He’s cute."

    That illustrates the big problem...

    Some guys are lying assholes and horrible people, but so are some women.

    It's not going to take long for them to get massively sued, there's no way they're vetting the posted info, and it's literally cyber bullying.

    The guy (yes it's a guy) who made and owns this is a fucking idiot for not seeing the lawsuits coming.

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  • [–] 40 points 1 year ago (6 children)

    Some guys are lying assholes and horrible people, but so are some women.

    and some guys anonymously posing as women online to undermine the competition.

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  • [–] 47 points 1 year ago (5 children)

    Lol, reminds me of a different thread about trump pretending to be a woman and writing into newspapers:

    “Based on the fact that I work for Donald Trump as his secretary—and therefore know him well—I think he treats women with great respect, contrary to what Julie Baumgold implied in her article … I do not believe any man in America gets more calls from women wanting to see him, meet him, or go out with him. The most beautiful women, the most successful women—all women love Donald Trump.”

    Carolin Gallego December 7, 1992. (Not a realperson)

    https://mashable.com/article/donald-trump-carolin-gallego-new-york-magazine-letter

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    [–] 74 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Imagine if the genders were swapped in this situation

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  • [–] 70 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Tea just suffered a massive data leak

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  • [–] 69 points 1 year ago (9 children)

    So I've had multiple GF's who were physically abusive, cheaters, chronic liars, gaslighters... so is there a version of this for me? Or are men never victims still?

    So glad this didn't exist like ~15 years ago. My one ex, who decided to start a relationship with her co-worker, while we were looking for and then financing a house... When I broke up with her (like 1 week after closing), while I was trying to process the betrayal, she took to Facebook and text messages spamming EVERYONE a fake story about me, trying to pass herself as the victim. Even including a fake pregnancy! All to make me look bad because I caught her cheating. Thankfully, this app didn't exist, and several of my female friends reached out to me for my side of the story.

    But all the "stories" on that app, 100% vetted, right? We get unbiased, both sides of the story, right... Evidence was required... right? Because imaging the harm someone could do if they were just petty, or scornful, of just bored. It's not like women have ever made false rape claims... right....

    I'm not trying to imply my situation is what all men go through... but you can't just dismiss it, or other men, because it doesn't fit into your social media-fueled narrative. Yes, some men suck (and that's selling it short). But, women are just as capable of the same level of suck. We are all, after all, human.

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    [–] 61 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    There is no way this would get abused by threat actors and mentally unstable types!

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  • [–] 47 points 1 year ago (5 children)

    If I was going to make something like this, it would have to incorporate trust chains. I don't care if some maga-hat says this lady is horrible. I care if my good friend Alex says she's horrible. One person's "this person won't shut up about communism" is a big red flag (no pun intended) but for someone else that's the dream.

    When you sign up, you'd need to be referred to someone or be a root node. Anyone connected to you can be weighted differently. If some section of the tree is misbehaving, prune it.

    But that's a lot of work

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    [–] 47 points 1 year ago (7 children)

    Kinda wild that app stores allow something like that. I wonder how long it'll take for someone to build the same up, but with the roles reversed: Men anonymously talking about local women 😬

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  • [–] 44 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    In theory it should be fine the problem is women always assume bad intent on the part of men, and good intent on the part of other women despite a fairly obvious fact that that's ridiculous.

    The problem is there doesn't seem to be any system in place for review or correction. What if there someone who just doesn't like me and posts photos and lies about me? Not only would I have no opportunity to correct the record, but unless someone I knew who was on the app told me about it, I wouldn't even know because men aren't allowed on.

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    [–] 46 points 1 year ago

    This is fucked up.

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  • [–] 41 points 1 year ago

    This is psychotic.

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  • [–] 37 points 1 year ago (2 children)
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    [–] 29 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Back in the Google Glass days, I theorized that it wouldn’t be long before you could look at a person walking down the street and near instantaneously have a full profile of that individual, their age and address and family and everything, with Yelp-style reviews commenting on how the subject is a huge dick, or has a huge dick, or kicks puppies, etc. “Free”, of course, encumbered only by ads for bullshit dating services, and with just the minor inconvenience of full access to every goddamn piece of data on your phone.

    I am only surprised that this kinda shit hasn’t happened much much earlier.

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  • [–] 28 points 1 year ago (15 children)

    Thank God we have the GDPR in Europe.

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    [–] 27 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Friendly reminder that Facebook started as FaceMash, an app for men at Harvard to rate the attractiveness of women.

    Both are bad. At least these women are nominally using it for safety and not just looks rating.

    Finally, I would be really darn cautious of using any app like FaceMash or Tea. Seems like a great way to get sued for defamation. Or to become the target of escalated behavior of one of the bad ones.

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    What a weird place some societies have come to.

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    [–] 21 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    How is this not a stalking app?

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    [–] 18 points 1 year ago

    How did they not mention the 'hack' here?

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  • [–] 17 points 1 year ago

    People should bombard them with DSAR requests.

    If you’re in a state that support data subject removal requests, like California, email support@teatheapp.com and say this is a formal DSAR request to remove all of your PII.

    They have 45 days to follow through.

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