People who still use both Reddit and Lemmy and are slowly leaving Reddit. How do you do it?

I have noticed that I'm very often on Reddit through either Apollo or the website out of mere habit (possibly even addiction). However, I have also noticed that the more I use Reddit, the more I feel agitated by all the negativity and toxicity from the users.

This is pretty much in all subreddits I'm active in. Mostly in piracy and piratedgames, people quarrel over the most trivial things and downvote each other for no reason at all.

Unfortunately, Lemmy has less content than Reddit. Though, I can't call what is on Reddit content anymore.

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[–] 1 point 2 days ago

In my case, I was forced to leave Reddit because at one point, I was not able to post or reply in any of my joined subs! I didn't know why I was band because there was no communication from any mods or the Reddit dictators. I deleted my account because there was no use of staying if I was banned. I asked my favorite AI if there is a Reddit substitute and it pointed my Lemmy. So I'm here!

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  • [–] 1 point 5 days ago

    Get permabanned by their shit moderators and it’s easy.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 days ago

    Late to the party, but I just slowly used Lemmy more. Almost kinda made myself. It slowly kinda became a habit and after a week, I signed out of Reddit. I use browser, and for me when I scroll down for more than 10 seconds it stops me and tells me to get the app, effectively making it impossible to use. I have then naturally gravitated towards Lemmy and haven’t used Reddit in like two weeks besides random threads I actually needed to do something.

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  • [–] 40 points 2 weeks ago (19 children)

    Lemmy definately has less content, but it feels like the old internet. People are just friendlier here. My biggest recommendation is to post/comment a lot; I think things like that really help the platform grow. I can honestly say I've never received any negative feedback here, so its a pretty safe space.

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  • [–] 6 points 2 weeks ago (17 children)

    My experience has been very different, especially yesterday. My reddit account had plenty of trolls on the blocklist, but I encountered an individual here who made several snap judgments about me based on an innocent response to a question and then demanded an apology from me for their hurt feelings when I said nothing targeted at anyone and they initially inserted themselves with arrogance and vitriol.

    As well, if you're not full on tankie/anarchist or at least more than halfway to either one, prepare for people to take issue with your stances. Vehemently. As if you were personally attacking them for having the audacity to, you know, be an individual.

    However I still prefer this experience to whatever it is Reddit has become and agree with your suggestions for how to make it more engaging.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 days ago* (3 children)

    I think to survive on Lemmy (all social media tbh) you need two things.

    One is the ability to disengage when it's no longer fulfilling. I see reports from people saying they are being harassed by someone in a thread and I can't help but wonder why they didn't stop replying to the bad faith comment about 17 replies earlier.

    The second is that you should block what you don't want to see. Block communities where you know you'll never be interested. Block users who reply in bad faith. Block instances where you see bad faith commenters a lot.

    Do these two things, and comment a lot, and I think you end up with a much better experience.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 days ago (2 children)

    Funny enough, I made a post in another community specifically about blocking. On the one hand I agree with you as for the curated experience, on the other hand echo chambers are unhealthy.

    Its a very difficult balance to strike. Thus far I have only blocked communities which have zero bearing in my life - languages I don't speak, kinks I simply don't share, etc. However, blocking individuals is something I frankly hesitate to do because even the literal worst POV out there is useful; its good to know where the extremes lie and to be prepared for that level of madness.

    At least, that's my opinion. And thankfully I find so far that even the most absurd hot take that I disagree with wildly on this site is still more palatable to me than half the crap that was out there on reddit before I left. And even those with snark are often kinder about it than reddit, I find.

    In fact, I seem to be the barely-palatable-hot-take here as often as not, but given upvotes are entirely meaningless in all ways and especially to my actual daily life I generally am not bothered by it.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 days ago (1 child)

    On the one hand I agree with you as for the curated experience, on the other hand echo chambers are unhealthy.

    My suggestion is to block bad faith participants. There are lots of conversations I have with people who disagree with me and probably can't be convinced otherwise, but they are still enjoyable conversations if they are had in good faith.

    To be honest I don't block that many users, I am able to spot bad faith participants and not reply to them, and if they reply to me I don't reply back. But if people are having trouble with the argumentative minority of Lemmy, I think blocking them is important. There's no point being here if you're not enjoying it.

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  • [–] 9 points 2 weeks ago (1 child)

    Expecting positive interactions with other humans, that is your problem right there ha

    Everyone romanticizes the “old” Reddit and the old internet quite a bit. There were always trolls, fake accounts, a holes and whiny jerks. The ads, bots, and all the more recent issues just tipped reddit over the edge.

    I felt bad leaving a 15 year old account but it wasn’t hard. I hadn’t enjoyed Reddit in a while. I uninstalled the client and installed mlem. It also helped me to temporarily switch browsers so I’m not getting Reddit threads as part of the search results. If I want Reddit in my search results then I will look for that intentionally.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 weeks ago

    Dunno, I rather enjoy interacting with other humans.

    Its people that fuck things up, broadly speaking. I don't particularly love people, but humans are alright in my book. Unfortunately, people are everywhere.

    To define terms a little more clearly, humans recognize things like "the other human" and "do unto others" and such. People, broadly, are greedy selfish creatures that will step on your feet without a second glance but be utterly appalled should anybody have the unmitigated gall to treat them in kind.

    These definitions transcend all political divisions and ideologies and belief systems, for the record. I have known some lovely religious conservative humans and some genuinely awful and repulsive progressively-minded people.

    I always try to be a human. Emphasis on try, as people make it difficult sometimes.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 weeks ago (6 children)

    if you're not full on tankie/anarchist or at least more than halfway to either one, prepare for people to take issue with your stances.

    Ahh yes, tankies and anarchists, famously the only political ideologies that "take issue with your stances."

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  • [–] 6 points 2 weeks ago (5 children)

    This is totally an echo chamber. Just look around. Its part of what drew us all here at the end of the day.

    And for the record, I prefer that flavor of madness over whatever the US is voting in around the country right now, so maybe take my observations as nothing more or less than just that - observations.

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  • [–] 5 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (4 children)

    Not saying we in the united States aren't to blame for a lot of what's going on but its starting to become global. Migration/race issues are becoming hot everywhere and at the same time everyone is rushing in the new era of survalience on the level, or surpassing that of 1984.

    I always used to imagine that I could just flee my country when things got too bad, but increasingly it seems like its spreading every where.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 week ago*

    i automatically block those people on lemmy, sorry but a political statement based on opinion and attitude is an immediately block. as is ones that make very condescending ones.

    blocking on reddit seems futile, since alot of them are bots/propaganda bots, theres for every troll blocked, another 10 pops up. also reddit stops blocking thier comments if you go over 1000 users. it only works if its a small subreddit. politics, news, sports, movies, ask reddit,,,etc impossible to block them all.

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    [–] 15 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

    I just.... left.

    I came here during the API change drama. Started to get acquainted with the platform before Apollo stopped working. And when it did, I never came back. Didn't even bother deleting my few hundred comments or give them the chance to ban me for not being a nazi propagandist cunt.

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  • [–] 14 points 2 weeks ago (1 child)

    I don't still use Reddit. I bailed back when they took ownership of all of my content. I did go through some withdrawals. Would constantly open my phone to open Reddit and remember that I had uninstalled and closed my account. Now a few years later I don't have anything like parity in Lemmy compared to my Reddit experience. Ultimately, I decided to not try and chase that. Lemmy is not Reddit, And the Reddit that I loved back in the day, is completely gone anyway, replaced by some corporate bullshit, bolstered by bad actors and robots.

    What I love about Lemmy, in contrast, is smaller communities and more genuine engagement. There are still bots and bad actors. Regardless of its flaws though, I'm about as likely to go back to Reddit as I am to creating a Facebook account. I'm on my phone less and more engaged with the actual people in my life now. Maybe we all need less social media, not better social media.

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  • [–] 10 points 2 weeks ago

    I kept using Reddit to browse for a while years back, and decided I'd just stop using it when the API no longer let me read stories. Evenrually.. It stopped working. The end.

    Lemmy is much smaller but it also has more engaged community discussions imo (but yea, it is another echo chamber - its hard to avoid that with such a niche tech/privacy/anti-corporate network).

    It reminds me of old school forums where you'd know most of the regulars, and I don't mind that.

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  • [–] 9 points 2 weeks ago

    All I did was delete my Reddit app.

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  • [–] 8 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

    I don't use reddit anymore, I still have an account but I stay logged out unless I need to see info in a thread that is some fix that I need because they won't let you see that now without being logged in.

    Lemmy does have way less content and way less people but you can find them if you look. I suggest changing your default sort to either "active" or "new comments". I use "New comments" this sort will show all threads that have any new comments on them so I can find the active conversations right away. I have been very chatty on Lemmy this way.

    Lemmy has its own set of trolls and extremists, they aren't conservative trolls like you see on reddit, they are extreme left all the way around back to Fascism, but I see you are on db0 so, you won't see the more troublesome instances.

    EDIT to add: My main in on Db0, and I still use that on mobile, but I ended up making an account on lemmy.world just to use this Lemmy skin https://old.lemmy.world/ Old Lemmy was what got me out of reddit forever, there is something very comfortable about this skin and it made my transition very smooth.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 week ago

    After getting banned for saying it's ok to punch nazis in the face. 12 year account I just stopped cold turkey. I refuse to even click reddit links.

    Actually it's been quite good for me. I realize I had an addiction to the site. My social media time has went down dramatically

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  • [–] 7 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

    I still look at reddit sometimes on my computer. But I just never installed their app on my phone.

    Reddit... really sucks now. Idk if it has gotten way more reactionary or if I'm just more aware of it. Tons of chuds, recycled posts, tons of astroturfing, bad comment sections. I don't miss it in its current state.

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    [–] 7 points 1 week ago

    There are still niche communities there that don't exist here.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 week ago (4 children)

    Now that old.reddit is account-walled, its become reeeeaal easy to not go there at all

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    [–] 7 points 1 week ago

    I started when the API thing went down.. exploring other sites with Lemmy among them. After continued enshitification I slowly started manually deleting 13 years of posts. Some here, some there. When I ran out of posts to delete I killed my account and just would occasionally browse old reddit. Now after they killed old reddit without logging in. (Which I will not do again). That was it. You get way better conversations here with mostly real people ... Honestly feels like the old days of reddit. I've had to find other places for niche forums and stuff for my hobbies but I'd rather do that then to go back to that shit pile.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 week ago (1 child)

    I recently discovered I've been shadowbanned, with zero idea why. Appeals vanish into the void without an answer... So I can read, but not participate. Feels pretty hostile towards users. Maybe they're doing me a favor?

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    [–] 6 points 2 weeks ago

    Try mentioning the genocide in Gaza and they'll force your hand into leaving.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 week ago (1 child)

    Put your Lemmy app in the spot of wherever your Reddit app is. Make the Reddit app take much more effort to get to. I used to have mine on my home screen so it is one click to get to it after unlocking. Now that's where my Lemmy app is and RedReader is in a folder off to the side. (I suppose I could go one step further and just remove the Reddit app from the home screen folder.) I end up checking Lemmy first now.

    The nice part is that Lemmy is getting big enough that I end up seeing a lot of the same news when I run out of content on Lemmy (start getting into more obscure posts) as when I switch to Reddit. So I find myself thinking "I've already seen that" so it makes the Reddit app feel more "stale" and easier to leave.

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    [–] 4 points 2 weeks ago* (1 child)

    My experience with reddit is similar to other folks here. I got permbanned in 2024 and then again in 2025, started going on Lemmy but lurked on reddit via third party app Infinity until earlier this year when reddit killed my API key. Since I refuse to use reddits hot garbage ad-riddled app, I uninstalled infinity and never went back.

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    [–] 4 points 1 week ago

    Outside of one community I use to track sales for a niche hobby, my main use of reddit is looking up old threads. There's nothing new on there that's helpful anymore. I like looking up old episode discussion threads for TV shows that I'm watching for the first time, for instance.

    I wish Lemmy was a good alternative. But without enough people using it, it can't really come close to a replacement. All my interests are more niche too, and I hate Discord, so it leaves me out here touching grass.

    Reddit's always been toxic, it's just worse the more MAGA and AI came to prominence (also a lot of what appears to be Russian astrotufing, but that might just be the subs I used).

    Unfortunately, Lemmy's not always better. I've been trying to figure out which instances to avoid, because I am really tired of certain people harping on about certain things.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 week ago (1 child)

    Step one is to never log in to Reddit again. Just lurk. You still get access, but your community is here.

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    [–] 4 points 1 week ago

    By replacing reddit shortcut with Lemmy shortcut on my front page/screen. Muscle memory is helluva drug

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  • [–] 4 points 2 weeks ago*

    So I used to used both Reddit and Lemmy and now I have completely switched over to Lemmy, which has turned out to be a much better experience anyway. (Less trolls, less intentionally divisive content, etc)

    Here's what I did:

    1. Got a permanent ban from Reddit (easy to do, plenty of guides online)
    2. Started a lemmy community (!westchesterny@lemmy.ml)
    3. Engage with others on lemmy
    4. Post content to c/westchesterny and other communities I am interested in (typically NYC metro area communities)

    What it was for me is Lemmy has a lot of tech and political discussions, but I don't really care about that so I started a community and contribute to communities that are regional to me because engaged hyper local and regional communities are a huge gap in the lemmy federation right now.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 weeks ago

    I just use a redlib instance to lurk on reddit.

    https://github.com/redlib-org/redlib-instances/blob/main/instances.md

    Can subscribe and filter users and subreddits, and is an accountless experience.

    I don't find reddit anymore aggravating than lemmy, since I stick to subreddits I'm interested in which tends to be more mellow stuff like games and tech compared to if I was looking at news type subs.

    I just do more actual commenting here due to having easy access to third party apps which reddit no longer provides. And I don't feel like going through effort of getting stuff like reddit is fun working. I'm fine lurking reddit now and not bothering logging in.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 weeks ago

    Block everything except for the niche content you can't get here: stuff for your town, your make of car, plants for your specific area, etc. You should be able to get most of the mainstream stuff here. Yes there's less posts, but you can help with that. And besides, you probably want to be scrolling less anyway, right?

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  • [–] 3 points 1 week ago

    It was easy for me to switch when my app stopped working.

    I will say I personally see having less content on lemmy as a feature. I sort by top - 12 hours, and once I’ve browsed deep enough to hit what I call “the porn layer”, I consider lemmy exhausted and find something else to do for a while. It’s lowered how much time I spend scrolling.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 week ago

    Lemmy is not a replacement for Reddit imo.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 week ago*

    I have been opening Lemmy for about two months now, browsing the communities and reading users’ comments, and yesterday I decided to create an account.

    Honestly, as someone who has only been on Reddit since 2018, I am curious to know what Reddit looked like in its early years, and Lemmy is a really good opportunity for that.

    The content is limited? One day Reddit’s content was limited too and then it grew! + Platforms and communities don’t grow on their own. they grow because of the people in them.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 week ago

    I keep my feeds on the app very curated which helps a lot. There are some niche subs that I like to visit still that don't have a presence on here.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 week ago

    I still also browse Reddit some but I've been using it a lot less since they banned me and cut off old.reddit

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  • [–] 3 points 1 week ago (1 child)

    No content is better than crap content, and I can spend that time doing something else and not just wasting the same amount of time on lemmy.

    I still have a throwaway account for one off comments/posts for some really niche stuff where I'm looking for info, otherwise the major subs I used to hang around in were either lobotomized or cracked apart with new mods or spam bots.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 week ago

    getting a permanent account suspension certainly helps.

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